Undercover Handjob

by Ryu

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Advisor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Undercover Handjob

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A was about tall, slender, blonde with big beautiful eyes. We had started going on dates, and we were pretty into each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At her apartment, we were watching a movie with her roommates. We had been fooling around for a couple weeks, but no sex because of the Mormon culture. We were under a blanket, and she surprised me by undoing my pants. It was a thrill because her roommates were in the room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She put her hand around my cock and started to massage the tip with her thumb. She kept going until I came and continued to rub my cum all over my cock with her fingers. I was really surprised because we were both so conservative and at BYU a religious school.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We continued to date, got married, and she is the love of my life.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just her.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was our secret.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t have sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was good to start experimenting.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Tough to say, I’m a fan of limiting sexual partners and committing to long term relationships.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!