Breakup Sex

by Rob

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Paris
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Movie editor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Breakup Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was in a relationship with Monica for 4 years. We were really in love.
At the time I knew her Facebook password and sometimes I was logging on it and look at her private messages, I don’t really know why.
She went on vacation in New York during summer. While she was away I logged onto her Facebook account again and I found out that she hooked up with a guy while in New York. It really makes me sad to found out that way that she was cheating on me.
After a month, she came back from vacation. We met in a park with some beers. I was planning to tell her everything, that I looked on her facebook, that I knew she cheated on me. But instead she told me that she wanted to breakup, because she didn’t felt in love with my anymore. One part of me wanted to tell her that I know the true reason, but instead I didn’t say anything and she broke up with me. We were very peaceful, I was not angry, but very sad.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We went to my place. We continued to talk and drink on the sofa. At one point she asked if she could sleep here tonight because she was not living in Paris and it was too late for her to take a train back to her place.
I agree and we eventually went to bed later that night. When she undressed, I noticed that she loses some weight during that one month vacation. She always been in shape, but now she was really skinny and it made me really horny to see her in her underwear.
We talked in bed for about an hour, and then we became dead silent. I was falling asleep when out of nowhere she said, “Don’t you want to cuddle with me?”  It hit me that this was her way of telling me she was horny and she wanted to fuck. I was not expecting that at all, especially from a girl who just dumped me 2 hours before.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So I went spooning with her. She was extremely horny because as soon as our 2 bodies were in contact she immediatly started to rub her ass on my dick. I was hard in about 2 seconds. I started to gently rub her tits and went to her pussy. She was hot as hell down her and her panties were already completely wet. I undressed her and one more time I noticed that she had lost some weight and I found her so much sexier than before. I was on my knees rubbing her clit while she lwas lying on the bed giving me a blowjob. I was so horny I almost exploded in her mouth. She then asked me to fuck her. We went from missionary to cowgirl to doggystyle. When I was behind I started to rub her butthole and I heard her moan from it. I then proceed to insert a finger into her asshole while fucking her. Then I took my dick out and started to rub her asshole with it for a while and eventually we had anal sex, which was not something we did a lot. I finally came inside her. It was a really hot sex session but with a bit of sadness knowing that it was the end of our relationship. It was kinda weird because we didn’t kissed at all when we were doing it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We didn’t sleep at all during the night. After hooking up we cuddled and talked naked in bed and in the morning we saw the sun rise from my window. We later went for coffee and breakfast and then she took a train and go home. I went to work tired as fuck, I was feeling really weird.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my friend about it, and they told me it was pretty commun to have breakup sex. It was the first time for me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was awesome and unexpected

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Knowing that it was breakup sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It change the way I thought about breakup.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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