Cheating with an Ex



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Malaysia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation:
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Cheating with an Ex

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last year

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Ex gf of 5 years. Broke up because we both cheated.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She came to my town and asked to meet up. She felt embarrassed to be seen in public because our story was a hot topic amongst our friends so we met in a motel.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She mentioned that since I was not single, she preferred to just talk. I had a shower and came out in a bathrobe and laid down next to her. Next thing I know she was stroking me saying that she felt very familiar with the routine. I wanted to fuck her but she somehow felt that was “more of cheating” so she gave me a deep throat blowjob. Or 3 to be precise, over 2 hours. I came in her mouth all 3 times and she swallowed it all. I tried to rub her clit all the way through to get her to loosen up, but although she got very wet and nearly lost control, she insisted that we do not have vaginal sex. Not sure how that fit in her morality wheel…

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Exhausted from the quick succession of cumming. I felt slightly guilty for cheating. The ex harbours hope of getting back with me, but I told her that I felt that I just wanted sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? My ex gave much better sexual satisfaction than my girlfriend at that time, even just through oral.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheap ugly room.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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