Colliding

by Rebecca

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Colliding

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

How would you best classify this hookup: sex with an ex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him in a music class. We were together for five months. Our relationship was pure fun revolving around music. We are both musicians and our feelings grew over the time we were together. We broke up on healthy terms, both agreeing to explore ourselves for awhile. I have always respected and admired him for his passion, intelligence, musical skill and love of poetry. I was sad to be away from him but loved the time apart because being away from him left room to reconnect with my family and learned to take care of myself.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was checking my mail at my college when I spotted a few familiar faces surrounding a bike contraption and a blender in the plaza. I didn’t want to rush home so I followed my curiosity. Outside was a smoothie party. I jumped on the bike and began riding to Queen’s song “Bicycle”, powering the blender.  My ex was there, walked up to me and gave me a lingering hug. We left the party and walked around the college, catching up. He told me his girlfriend broke up with him. He insisted he wasn’t upset about it. We talked about our relationship. He said, “You scared me away from monogamy.” I laughed: “You should read The Ethical Slut.” His eyes widened, “I’m reading it right now.” He said that’s where he discovered the concept of polyamory.

We sat down on a bench outside. I was talking about how I discovered my love for dance when he asked, “Do you want to makeout?” I was surprised at his directness but also charmed by it. I led him to my apartment. As I was opening the door, I said: “I’m still attracted to you.”

He was sitting on my couch fiddling on my guitar, I sat down next to him, he looked over at me and that’s when it began.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I straddled him while making out on the couch. Afraid of my housemates walking in on us, I took his hand and pulled him into my room.  He immediately went down on me. He told me to take off his pants, which I did soon after. He kissed my thighs and ass. I went down on him for a little while. I told him to kiss my neck. We did missionary and doggy style. My favorite position was on top of him, pinning his arms overhead. He wanted to try anal and I considered it but decided not this time. I want to be prepared when trying anal for the first time. Sex with him is receptive and open. I say what I want and he does the same. During doggy style, I orgasmed and he came soon after.
He is an excellent lover.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He asked if I was on birth control and I said, “no.” I opened my drawer and found only one condom. It was cherry flavored. We tried to make it last for as long as possible without breaking but we heard a popping sound and it failed. In the past, when we have used condoms they always broke. He suggested we try without condoms only if I comfortable. I was comfortable not using a condom with him because I trust he would pull out; which he did. He gave warning when he was about to cum. I would definitely try withdrawal again. Sex without a condom feels amazing.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was curious to see if sex with him would still be as fulfilling as when we were in a relationship. And it was. I am still very much attracted to him. I like his sensuous nature. I am comfortable with him and I like how he is very attentive to what I need; so I thought why not?

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was pleasantly surprised when he asked me to lay on my chest. I thought he was going to kiss my back but instead began massaging me. No expectations, I am exploring and loving my life. I think he is hot as hell and I would like to “collide” with him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The day after in dance class, I met up with a friend. We caught up, she asked me if I was still “with that guy.” I said, “No, but we hooked up.” She seemed surprised. “That’s good, no labels. Just don’t let him hurt you.”

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Absolutely.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets whatsoever.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The intimacy between us. He knows what I like, I love his body and it was comfortable for both of us. It was aggressive yet gentle. He undressed me against my drawers and later he gave me a back massage. We cuddled, playing little spoon and big spoon.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Sex is good and pleasure is good for you!