What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? South Africa
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, dark, well built, very strong. Been my school buddy. I still have soft spot for him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was visiting his town and had been chatting to him on phone and emails. We planned to meet up. He picked me up in his Truck and took me in the lonely place. He had planned it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He picked me up in his truck from my accommodation and took me to a lonely spot. As we stopped and make out a bit, he asked me to give him a blow job. When he realized that I had him deep throat, he then held my head tight until he emptied in my throat till the last drop. Making me swallow it all.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was so good that the next day I met him again and we repeated it again and again. I now feel that I want him to do that to me every day. I loved the feeling of him using me roughly.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To cheer myself up, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I learned to deep throat and swallow cum.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The time was too short
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.
It’s so easy to cheat on your spouse and have fun
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He is my EX BF, he is the one that took my V-card and has used me good in the past. He teaches me new things sexually every time we hook-up
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I will continue doing this
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is good place to share one’s experience
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