What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States, Pennsylvania
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Far in the Woods
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 2 summers ago
What was your relationship status at the time?
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Me and him had been sort of dating but it was complicated. We met in school, and this was our first hookup. We were walking through the woods but originally met at his place. And how I felt? Honestly, I wasn’t even planning for the hookup to happen. It just kinda happened.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We hooked up in the woods. What led to it was a condom packed in his bag. Sounds funny but true. Honestly, I didn’t plan it to happen but I have a slight feeling he was part of the planning process. He suggested we hook up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was mostly vaginal sex being given to me. During the whole process, I felt amazing since it was my FIRST time. It felt orgasmic. My partner kinda just focused on the sex. Yes, he was an excellent lover. We didn’t talk during the sex. It ended with me super wet. And after we just went back to his place.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards we went back to his place. The next day all I could think about was how great that sex was. I hoped that we would stay together but it didn’t last. Honestly now I still think about him occasionally with weird feelings but not on a daily basis. I do miss the sex though.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, Peer pressure, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t really tell many people about the hookup actually
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? Because it was so great and now that I don’t have that person I just feel I can never have that same sexual experience ever again like I did with him.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I felt amazing and I was no longer a virgin afterward
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That fact that I had no place in the planning process
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Most definitely. The hookup has made me more open to my sexualities. Meaning I’m more sexual after this one hookup.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t have sex as much as I want to.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I don’t know much about the project yet
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