What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? PA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Classified
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? 100% straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my first girlfriend back in high school. We dated off and on and basically did everything but sex. She could never work up actually going all the way at the time before she would find a reason to break up with me. In college when she got out of a long term relationship we discussed hooking up, but again didn’t happen (more time & circumstance reasons than anything else). We stayed in touch when I left the area as very close friends, sexting every now and then. Had another chance for a hookup when I came back to town one time but again she chickened out. (Never hooked up outside a relationship) Finally, the next time I came back to town, it happened.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was staying at a family residence and she came over after work where she was a teacher’s aide. We had been talking about it for weeks, but I was still expecting it not to happen. She was the one who got away, and about the only girl I wanted to have sex with that I never did, so I was anxious. She came over, we hugged, talked about her day which hadn’t gone so well, and I proceeded to start rubbing and kissing her shoulders and neck. That started it all…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out and then proceeded upstairs. Once there, clothes started flying in a hurry. I played with her breasts and sucked her nipples as she moaned, proceeded to work my way down to finger her and give her oral. Her moans and breathing started getting louder and faster so I went faster until she came. She then gave me head. It never completes me but it does feel good. Finally, I asked her if she was ready for me, and she said yes. I got a condom and after making sure again she was ok with it, proceeded to go in slowly. She was tight af so I stayed slow to keep it going. I tried to get her to go on top but her knee was bothering her so we switched back up to missionary and I proceeded to go faster and harder. We came at the same time and I collapsed on to her. It felt amazing, and worth the 8 years or so of waiting. After cooling off, we dressed and went back downstairs to grab a water but we were quickly reminiscing and getting handsy again so back we went for round 2. Much of the same things happened only this time doggy went into the mix and again she came from foreplay and came when I came inside her. At that point, we cooled off again and she had to go.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We tried to find time on that trip but couldn’t because my parents came into town the next day. We talked about her coming to visit me but by then she met a guy who she started dating and then got married to when she became pregnant.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one on my end.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? After all those years of feelings, I finally was able to have sex with her. Feeling me inside her and cumming at the same time as her.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was the only time we were able to.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I had plenty of casual sex partners before and after this experience.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My motto in life is let things happen as they may. Casual sex is a lot of fun if both sides are ok with it. The stigma shouldn’t be there about it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Best idea ever! ok, a bit much… but it’s a lot of fun to read the stories on here!
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