First Time Fling



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time Fling

How long ago did this hookup happen? Over a year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had dated him the previous year for a couple of months but it never really went anywhere so he broke it off. About six months later he texted me apologizing for the break up and asked me to hang out as friends. The next day we got together and chatted for a bit and one thing led to another and we started making out and I gave him a blow job. We ended the night off agreeing to keep it on the down low.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Over the next couple months we hung out a couple for times moving a little further each time. The night before he texted me saying he would home alone the following day and wanted me to come over. I agreed. While texting he was asking what things I wanted to do and at this point we were both virgins so I said I wanted sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The next day I went to his house and we awkwardly chatted until we started making out then he asked me to strip for him while he jacked off. We both got closer and I gave him head and he fingered me for a little bit. I like bdsm so he was rough which I enjoyed. He asked me if I was sure I wanted to fuck and I said yes and he pulled out a condom. We started to have sex and it was really uncomfortable for both of us. We both had no idea what we were doing and I was nervous so I was definitely not wet enough. I faked some moans so he didn’t go soft but I was no were close to orgasam. I finished him off with a blow job and swallowed his load.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? This is the really kicker, after I had left he sent me a text message telling me that it was too much for him and he wanted a bit of a break after I didn’t respond for bit he texted again saying he didn’t mean what he said and only meant he didn’t want to hangout for a week. Anyway I was pissed and we had a very long discussion about what kind of situation we had and how we wanted to continue. We settled on just being friends and haven’t talked since.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t tell anyone until months after. They were shocked that I did it and that I did it with him.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I regret what was said as a result and the state of our “relationship” after. I don’t regret that it happened because in the moment I wanted it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having someone to call up when I was horny

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to see him most days since

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? After being in a serious relationship after that and getting out of a serious relationship I have realized that relationships suck and I want more casual hookups because I’m horny

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex should be viewed less negatively. Casual sex lets you know what you like, and can be really fun.

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