Getting It off My Chest



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Getting it off my chest

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him quite a several months ago on tinder, he was half Indian, lovely tanned skin, black hair and a short beard and moustache. He was only a bit taller than me (I’m 5″4) but he was very muscly, with a little bit of chub on his stomach. When we first started talking on tinder, we began dating, and do the usually that comes with that, sex, oral, hand play we had done this quite a few times and began a relationship he worked in the army and had to go away for work we decided that the distance would be difficult so agreed we would be single whilst he was away and see what happened. It ended mutually and not a bad thing said. Whilst he was away I met someone else who I am now with.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He came back from working away last week and asked to meet, I made it very clear I was in a new relationship but would love to catch up as friends, he agreed and came round to mind for a cuppa. Once there he was very touchy feely and I could half tell it wasn’t just friendly, we hugged and he went in for a kiss I turned my head and he kissed me on the cheek, we started talking and I stood up to get his tea, he gave me another hug and tried a kiss again, I said I can’t kiss you. He said he understood. It was cold and we ended up cuddling, he kept kissing my lips and neck but I refused to kiss back.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After a while he put his hand up my top and was just gently massaging my body, I didn’t say anything as to me this was still innocent. He tried kissing me, and my neck again I just ignored it, before I knew it his hand was down my pants, he was also so good with his hands before! he was going crazy on my clit getting me so horny, I couldn’t say no! He started fingering me deeper and faster, I was moaning already and so wet! He took my clothes off and sucked on my nipples then went for a kiss I could resisted any longer and was kissing him back, this was all he needed he took his clothes off and then started fingering my arsehole before he pulled me on top and let me ride him whilst he sucked on my nipples some more, he was getting more excited and I knew he was going to cum soon so I jumped off and started giving him a blowjob, although he was moaning I remembered he doesn’t cum to blowjobs so I gave him a tit wank and it only took seconds before he cummed all over my tits.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he cummed I cleaned up, whilst washing all I could think about was my current boyfriend I instantly felt guilty and said he had to go. We’re still talking as friends and I’m sure this is how it will stay now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, and I don’t think I ever can at the risk of my relationship

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? That I cheated

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’ve always been so attracted to him and he just wanted me which was quite nice

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I cheated

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I think I will be more understanding to those that cheat as I can see how easy it can happen

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great, love the stories! The more details the better

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