Living My Ex’s Fantasy…



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What’s your occupation? Dominatrix
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual

Living My Ex’s Fantasy…

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My ex’s friend. Talk and strong but not very distinct. They were friends through the exploration of their kink fantasies which is why he approached me when he learned that I was single. He was shocked to find out that I never indulged his kinks but I’m detailed talks with him I found myself into it with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My ex left me after a fight and his friend who had found me attractive for years wrote me and asked if I would be open to exploring a bondage and robbery fantasy with him. After ten years of saying no to my ex I just found myself agreeing and booking a seedy motel room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came into my motel room as a masked robber with a knife! He tied me up, he searched me, he gagged me with a huge pair of panties and teased me as I fought and kicked. I was manhandled as I struggled and sexually dominated and left tied up and gagged to a chair with my panties over my face.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left me tied to the chair and I had to free myself. We have barely spoken since.

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got over my fear of being gagged and bound.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Hoping my ex doesn’t find out.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I’m booked on meeting semi-strangers for bondage.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

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