What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? no
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My First Experience with a Girl
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Well I had just met a guy at that time who was trying to pursue me. As much as I kept rejecting him, because I’m, well, gay and simply wasn’t interested, he never gave up. I even informed him I was a lesbian in the closet but he kept chasing me. The fact that I’m African means it’s a big abomination to be gay, I had a lot of sexual urges and desires towards other women but kept it bottled up.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Until one day the guy invited me to his house and we randomly started talking about sex, I told him how I was a lesbian virgin and how horny I am to touch, taste and feel another woman; he then thought it’d be appropriate to talk about his bisexual ex girlfriend and how they still casually have sex. They’re in an open relationship he said, but also mentioned that she’s bisexual and she’s been craving to sleep with a black girl. He told me not to worry that he’d take care of everything. Three days later I receive a message from him stating time location and that I should dress sexy. I became anxious, excited a moment didn’t pass without having a wet day dream, about kissing her, touching her, pinning her on the wall and grind and seduce her – although her image on my head was based on the picture I was shown. I was nervous to meet her…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He came and picked me up, we headed over to her place. I weared a very tight sexy red dress with transparent tights underneath, I had sexy 6 inches heels and a Victoria’s secret thong aching to be teared off. I was already wet before I even entered her house as I was over thinking how the encounter would be. I entered inside, struck by the silence – he immediately followed behind me,grabbed my hand and took me to her,she was in her bedroom laying on the bed sideways watching TV. She turned as we entered. I said hi and she smiled and turned her attention towards the guy. He went on to bed and welcomed me to join them, I took off my heels and hopped on in the middle of him and her. I froze there watching TV as I hear him giving us a pep talk on how were acting shy, how much of an animal she is in bed that we should interact with me. I kept my hands to my self, about 20 minutes in she got the blanket and covered it on herself and also me. We continued watching TV in slience while laying on the bed. A few more minutes passed, I began to feel her toes sliding on mine, I ignored it ,thought maybe she was just moving her leg, she stopped,then I felt her do that again. I stared at her; though she had her back facing me as she glanced at the TV, I began to now feel her grinding her leg on mine, I got shocked and it now became real to me that it was happening (I was about to actually have sex with a girl). She took her hands and she slowly put them on my transparent tights as she touched my legs and rubbed them ,I felt a rush on my body from my stomach to my pussy that I’ve never felt before, I was extremely turned on by her touch, I don’t know what got inside of me the minute she turned to face me I went in and kissed her soft full lips ,it was amazing I felt as if I couldn’t control my self. I jumped onto of her while we were kissing really fast as I looked at her with lust in my eyes. We flipped and she was onto of me, I put my hands on her cheeks and deeply kissed her, I kissed her neck, we had such an intense look in each others eye. I went down kissed every visible skin I can touch. She was moaning hard,which drove me even crazier. I loved her tits and having them on my mouth,It was difficult not to bite her nipples as they were hard and big and I was compelled to do it. I’d whisper seductively in her ears “you like this , “how bad do you want me”, “I want you so bad”,etc dirty talk as I put all my focus on her and the good feeling. I was deep in the moment until I felt a third cold hand touch me only to realise that the guy was still on the bed and somewhat he thought this was going to be a threesome with him. I immediately got turned off, he repeatedly tried touching me but I’d push him away and he tried to do the same with her and she’d reject his attempts and shed continue kissing me – he got frustrated and sat on the bed being annoyed. He was right there, I began to feel his presence, he wasn’t going away and it made me feel weird and uncomfortable. Him staring at us, me not knowing what was on his mind drove me off track with her. I felt really uncomfortable although we proceeded with taking each others clothes off, I was naked with her. I felt sick and wanted to stop. I started feeling unease and frustrated. I wanted him gone but I couldn’t say it. I didn’t want to appear selfish/greedy considering the fact that if it wasn’t for the guy I couldn’t have met the girl. I began to feel nervous and made it apparent that I was inexperienced and mostly uninterested to be fully involved with her. I went down on her pussy and tasted her, she tasted amazing I could hear her moan when my tongue touched certain places on her pussy. I wanted to enjoy this but the guy chased away my appetite to eat her out by his presence. I wasn’t feeling it at all. She did go down on me though I partially enjoyed but my head was elsewhere, contemplating my thoughts. It was way too awkward with him there. I think she felt the awkwardness as well. I made an excuse that I wanted to go to the bathroom, when I came back that was it. We didn’t continue and I went home
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt bad about it, I was worried that maybe the guy was faking being on his phone to film me and her naked. I will never know… My expectations where to have a one on one experience with her – only, she turned me on at first so I can totally see my self being sexually confident and having no worries if I was just with her alone. There’s no future for me and her, as me and the guy stopped communicating and I never got her contact.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my coworker, she thought it was awkward that the guy was there. She felt bad for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I regret letting him see me naked, now he goes and brags about it. I regret sleeping with his ex girlfriend because it technically means that I slept with something he slept with. Also I came to discover that she sleeps around a lot, and me being the innocent girl that I am I’m worried that I might’ve caught something. I regret not being cautious.
Also I regret that my first lesbian experience was without an orgasm.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing was that at least I now know what it is like to be with a woman.
I’ve learned from my mistakes and will out it to good use once I meet a great lesbian girl
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? HE WAS IN THE ROOM.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? YES ABSOLUTELY
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The guy complained to me after how stupid I made him feel ,and we stopped interacting at all.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t see my self as the casual sex type of girl considering the fact that I haven’t had a lot of sexual encounters yet. But I do see the point of it. And those who do it should use precaution
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