What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Never Getting Back Together
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was my ex-boyfriend. He’s 6’1 and a little built, but very strong. We only dated for 4 months, and had a bad-ish breakup, so we only contacted each other on birthdays and all that out of formalities. We met again on a mutual friend’s birthday party, and at this point I was completely over him, and he was seeing another girl.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We said hi at the party and chatted a little bit, catching up on each other’s life. He kept staying by me and I didn’t think of anything by it. The party was a bit wild in terms of alcohol, and we definitely had some of it. I was quite tipsy and he was definitely more drunk than me. He kept touching my body and I felt a little bit uncomfortable at first, especially remembering that he was seeing someone else. With more booze, though, his touches turned me on a lot. We had a great sex life beforehand and it reminded me of that. At one point in the night, I sat on his lap and I can feel his hard cock, and it went from there.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I went to the toilet and when I came out, found him outside, and we instantly started making out. He slide his hand inside my panties and started fingering me. I had to keep back my moans and I think we ended up inside one of the toilet’s cubicle. I went down on him and gave him a blowjob (he loves my blowjob) and came in my mouth. He pulled my hair to get me to stand up and fucked me straight away. The alcohol made him rougher than I remembered and definitely a bit loud. He lifted up my blouse (I wasn’t wearing a bra) and sucked on my nipples. I came just in a few strokes and we ended our quickie before the sober ones found out.
He couldn’t keep his hands off of me for the remainder of the night and I kept on brushing my hand on his cock. At 3 AM, we left the party and went to his place. Fyi, he lives with his family, who were sleeping. In the taxi he kept playing with my pussy and once we were in his house, he took off my top and his pants, and we fucked on the sofa doggystyle. He had his hand over my mouth and the other squeezing my boobs. He then lifted me up and we went to his room, where he fucked me against the wall, and my back kept hitting the wall. He was so rough and he was quite loud himself that I had to cover his mouth. Moving onto his bed, I was on top, and we finally came again before passing out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning it was a bit awkward to wake up next to a naked ex – and we also scrambled to get our clothes we left outside in the living room before anyone noticed. He drove me home and we had sex once more in the backseat of his car because he said he has morning wood – and I was happy to get fucked really hard once more. We only talked out of formality again after that, like all the sex never happened.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Didn’t tell anyone. My friends hate him.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex. He was/is the best sex I’ve had to date.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’m pretty sure his family could hear everything that happened.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? In a way, yes. Sex is just a physical act – there wasn’t any feelings involved and we just went with it. It was about pleasure that we couldn’t get with anyone else.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He never told his girlfriend – of whom he’s not in a relationship anymore now.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think society needs to understand that time has changed – if someone wants sex, they should get it without being judged. Anything in others’ lives should not be judged as it doesn’t affect their lives in the slightest.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it – an outlet to anonymously tell stories we cannot tell anywhere else.
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