by Jim Stanton
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Management
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? This is my first one.
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two months ago.
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Most of my past partners with only one exception I have known reasonably well. This one was by far the best looking. Slim build with nice breasts, red hair, fair skin, just smoking hot. The others were a mix.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Planning was involved and she initiated it. A family vacation to the mountains. She asked for me to be in the same hotel, different floor and she made time to come over and visit me in my room for ten minutes to an hour depending on how long she could escape.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First night was just a quick hug and a few kisses as was the first meeting the next day. It was not until the next night when we became more intimate. She blew me and then we had vaginal sex. Nothing kinky. First time for me in years so it was special for that alone.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Over the course of three days we had sex six times. We have another visit plan for next month but I think she may be getting cold feet.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? One of my college buddies. He was shocked that I worked for it for almost 13 years.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First time in four years that I had sex with someone.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? All of it was very rushed and it was only over a few days.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We initially felt a much deeper connection than it ever had been before but now that seems to have waned a bit.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have only had two one night stands, one with a complete stranger, the other with a work colleague.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is an interesting collection of stories.
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