What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 68
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Arizona USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired (construction)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12-14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3-4
One More Jump With Ex.
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I hadn’t seen my ex-wife in 5 or more years. She’d been a big woman the last time I’d seen her – at some family event – but when we bumped into each other at the town library, I didn’t recognize her. She looked ‘rough’, but so do I. We’ve had tough lives, you might say. I had no intention of hooking up with her, until that day at the library. She’s lost probably 30-40 pounds – while her breasts remained very large.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We made plans to have coffee, and we did, at a local cafe. It was kind of dicey, as many people knew us in this small town. We had two kids together (now both pushing 50) and in fact our coffee plans got back to the kids. Our daughter chewed my ass later. But back to my ex: she was a little flirty, and as I hadn’t been getting much at home I flirted back – more than a little.
She asked me to, “Stop dishing the porn”, or something like that. We held hands under the table and eventually made plans to meet the next morning at my motel in a nearby town.
Although we hadn’t been intimate in nearly 40 years, I remembered her as a strong, aggressive lover. We started kissing almost as soon as she was in the room. And away we went.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The day before I had promised to eat her out if we got together, and although she was a little shy at first in the motel room we were both soon naked and making out. I was very horny, and eager beyond all reason. I just couldn’t get enough of her and ate her like a starving man, humping the bed sheets and growling against her wet pussy. She told me she was close and tried to pull me on top of her, but I continued to lick and suck her cunt till she came. She tasted pretty much as I remembered her, (very good) and I knew she was multi-orgasmic. I continued to lick her, gently at first until she was moving and bucking against me, begging me to fuck her, and this time I did. I moved on top of her and slipped inside as she began to climax. We fucked like mad for maybe a minute and I came just as her orgasm was winding down. As we came down from our sexual high, I tried to go down on her again but she said no. I could clearly tell that she was feeling guilty. But she was, and there were tears as we lay close together and talked, (for almost an hour) and after a shower she left, kissing me goodbye by the door.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I masturbated, with my crotch still sticky from our cum and her scent still on my face. I’d taken a viagra an hour before she arrived. I washed it down with a chunk of pot brownie, and was still very turned on.
She told me later she went for a long walk in the woods, and I did too later that day – but several miles apart. I felt ok the next day, but a little guilty which is rare for me. While not in a ‘open’ marriage exactly. My present wife and I have a “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy that works for us. I doubted that I would see my ex again for sex, and so far that’s true. We texted a couple of times, which is not my thing anyway and in this case I kept it very ‘generic’. Be careful what you write down, folks…
But when we spoke on the phone a week or 2 later, she was very emotional, and although we laughed a bit she was crying too. We both agreed the quick burst of lust wasn’t worth the heartache after.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? It was a bit selfish. And I should have known she would be shaken by it. And in fact I did know, but eagerly pursued her anyway
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fucking. I hadn’t had intercourse in some years – my wife has age-related ‘lady problems’.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Knowing that she was suffering as a result. That and the worry that the kids would find out!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would do it again in a heartbeat, but only if we had some time together. Meet up in Las Vegas for a couple of days, maybe.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like it a lot.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it. Thank you!
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