Re-Sex’d The Ex That Was In Wedding Party

by Bad Kendra

Gender: Female
Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: Tennessee
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Health Care
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Born Horny
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25’ish (close guess if including oral)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero

Re-Sex’d The Ex That Was In Wedding Party

How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Sex with Ex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had met Allen my senior year in college and we date for a solid 18 months.  We dated as a long distance relationship for a few months after he accepted a job in Atlanta and I started a job and graduate school in Nashville.  The LDR was not the best and we broke up but on great terms (no angry feelings).  I thought Allen was a great guy, and excellent boy friend, but the timing was not right for us to continue as a couple.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? College friends of mine (ours) were getting married in Lexington, KY. I was asked to be one of the  brides maids in the wedding party. I found out several weeks before that Allen was a groomsman.  I did not plan (or consider) anything would happen. I was dating a guy and knew that he had a girlfriend. My boyfriend was invited but could not attend due to work obligations. I assumed Allen would bring his girlfriend and never considered anything than casual conversation would occur.
I checked into my hotel and went to the rehearsal.  That was where we first saw each other that weekend.  He came straight over and gave me a HUGE hug. We chatted before the rehearsal began.  Once again we chatted at the rehearsal dinner, and at the conclusion he left with all the guys to go out and I left with the girls.  Later that night both parties ended up at the same bar and we were drinking, having conversation, and then danced some. After everyone left we stood in the parking lot and talked, and he leaned in and kissed me.  We left there and went to his hotel room…..

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were all over each other in car on the way to the hotel….I actually started giving him a BJ as he was driving.  We were kissing and hands were all over each other in the elevator. As soon as we were in his room, I finished the BJ I had started.  All clothes came off and he returned the orgasmic favor by playing with my clit and nipples and finally going down on me. We then had doggy style intercourse, before both falling asleep in his bed. Saturday morning he got up and went and bought me a toothbrush and gave me a ball cap from his car. We stopped for breakfast as he took me back to my hotel.
After the wedding the reception/party was at my hotel.  After the bride and groom departed, Allen and I went to the hotel bar for a few drinks, before I took him up to my room. We had oral sex followed by missionary intercourse before falling asleep. Sunday morning we awoke, showered (separately) and went to the hotels breakfast buffet.  I had Mimosas and he had Bloody Marys.  As we rode the elevator to me room (I was planning of checking out and leaving for home) he leaned in and kissed me.  Back in the room we had a last a final round with me riding him cowgirl on the couch in the hotel room before we finished in a doggy style.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, several for both of us

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I was on the pill. We did not use any other protection.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Drunk and horny the first night, and similar reasons for Saturday night and Sunday morning.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After, we both left for home.  I had fun and was glad it happened; however, I did feel bad about cheating on my BF at home (it was my first time to cheat) and I did have waves of nausea for several days when I thought about him finding out. They did finally pass.
There were no expectations/hopes for the future with Allen.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told NO ONE for months. I finally told my best friend (the bride that got married), her response was “hell everybody knows”.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. I had fun that weekend, no one got hurt. My other relationship did not last (not because I cheated) so its all good.  Allen married the girl he was dating at the time and they divorced after 2-3 years.  We are both now happily married (not to each other) but remain in contact thru social media.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing: It was fun, good, consensual and mutualy beneficial sex

Worst Worry about BF finding out I cheated

Did not change the way I think about casual sex. I had one-night stands before. It was the first time I cheated.  I have had one night stands since, casual oral sex, and cheated on another after that. I have not cheated in me current marriage.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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