The Comeback



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Freelance
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 18
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

The come back

How long ago did this hookup happen? About three months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, handsome, caucasian, nice hair, sexy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had a one wild night years ago but as i was mostly travelling, we kept talking via internet and we found ourselves enjoying sexy conversations that lead to talk about fantasies and as I knew i was visiting the city i suggested we could go out and have a “beer”. He was happy to see me but we didn’t plan on having sex

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a bar. I was very nervous because i always had a big attraction for this man but something i didn’t know until two weeks before we meet is that he got married but we still decided to go as we were only having a beer but as soon as i saw him sitting there I knew i wouldn’t be able to control my desire. He was obviously attracted to me also and as we finished the first beer. He started approaching to me and telling me how sexy I am and how he would like to make our chats reality for what i suggested we could find a hotel room and make it real. I was very hot at that time and all i was thinking was about having his mouth all over me. After a real crazy time finding a hotel and one more beer, we were there ready to kiss all over and i started with oral and then vaginal. He was amazing, we did it around 3 times that day. It ended with him being very passionate and caring but being aware we shouldn’t do it again. We took a taxi, we dropped me first. Nice good bye kiss

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt amazing and no guilty at all. I have no expectation but i cannot deny that another session would be even better as it is just sex and nothing else

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, Power / Dominance

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? a close friend

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? the way he touched and kissed me

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? trying to find a hotel room

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I didn’t know i could enjoy sex with someone who was married. I do not feel bad but something i wonder if i should

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? WE should be more open minded with sex and joyment

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? it is a great opportunity to open up our minds

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!