What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? creative director
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Lost count
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? this will be my first


How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A lot of my partners since July 2016 have been through dating apps. I met one guy at my daughter’s birthday party, he was 27 (and so so so hot), I was 51 but beyond him, they’ve all been through online. They run the gamut in looks: 24 was a giant former football player with a hairy back and a swarthiness to him that I found attractive, while Moobs had a bit of a belly and man-breasts and pouty lips with rosy cheeks. They all have some attractive appeal to them, I suppose. In general, I use men for sex, with the rare occasion of the one I fell for. Everyone I’ve been with has a nickname so I can keep track of who they were. In general, I have sex with them the first time I meet them, and more often than not, I don’t see them again. I try not to string them along with endless texting.

How do I feel about them before the hookup? I don’t feel anything about them.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? 25 found me on a dating app. He claimed to be 40. I challenged him and said, there’s NO WAY you’re 40. And he said, make my day go from good to great and tell me you don’t mind I’m 25. And I liked his moxie. Yes, he had a beautiful seamless face. That swayed me. He asked me to call him, so I did. He laid the sales pitch heavy on me. So we agreed to meet, his urging.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a bar. We sat very close to one another. He was yammering on about some conspiracy theory. I thought, Oh brother, I gotta get outta here. At some point, he put his hand on my neck and kissed me. It was electric. I decided I would fuck him. I suggested we go for a walk. We went up a tree lined street and stopped on a stoop. I’m short so I took two of the steps and leaned down into him, and he grabbed me again, kissing me. We were interrupted by some resident walking out of the building. We walked further up the block, and stopped by a chain link fence. I leaned against it, pulled him towards me. He pressed into me. I took his hand and put it under my shirt. He reached for my tits and pressed down on one and I moaned. I unzipped my coat and my hoodie and I pulled my shirt down a bit, revealing my white lace bra. He groaned. He leaned down to kiss my tit and I moaned which made him go wild, he pulled the lace aside and found my nipple and wrapped his lips around it. I told him to bite me and I moaned when he did. He looked up and said, “I need to fuck you right now.”

I wasn’t sure I wanted to go to my apartment so I told him we could hook up in the stairwell of my building. I have no idea if there were security cameras. I still don’t. So we went into the stairwell, off my floor. And we took off our coats and I straddled him and he unbuttoned my black sweater. I wanted his mouth on my tits, right away. He put his mouth there and he sucked hard and I bucked, grinding against him, moaning. He kept telling me how hot I was. I pulled his pants down and got on my knees and oh, I liked what I saw, and I put him in my mouth and he made me stop, said he was about to come. He pulled his pants on, and came inside his pants.

Time to fuck, I decided. I brought him into my apartment. I pushed him onto my bed. His clothes came flying off, mine too. I climbed on top of his face and let him lap me up. He was on a roll, telling me how sexy I was, how hard he was going to fuck me. I got a condom, I put it on him, I climbed on top of him and began the slow grind. He tried to pump, but I told him to stay still. I began to grind, pressing my clit against him, and I put his hands on my tits and told him to pinch my nipples and I came almost immediately. I was so fucking loud and he picked up on my cue and came with me.

It was amazing.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He went home. Texted me that he’d fucked so many women, but no one had ever ridden him the way I did. His version of a compliment.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, who always enjoy my antics, particularly with the men in their 20s.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He is excellent to fuck.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He talks too much.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I enjoy casual sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish people would enjoy having sex for sex’s sake. Sex makes me feel awesome, orgasms feel awesome, why would I deny myself of it? Love, that takes work. Sex is easy-peasy.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is so fun.

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