What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 70
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Disability Support
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? About a dozen bar girls/hookers, in 1970/71. About a dozen normal partners since then.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
A Short Fling
How long ago did this hookup happen? Late 1970s
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was an average looking, thirty something lady with long brown hair. She had a very nice voluptuous figure, not fit but hardly any fat on her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? During a motorbike trip to South Australia I visited my cousin Fred, in Western Victoria. He took me to a pub. While having a few beers he said “I supposed you’d like to get a root?” and went on to say he could set me up with someone. Apart from the bar girls and hookers, I hadn’t had much experience and I wasn’t that keen to have sex with a random stranger. However I said yes, because a real man wants sex right?
Fred told me to be at a certain intersection at 9.30am the next day and wait for a blue Ford ute (pick-up) with Mag wheels, driven by Mary. The blue Ford ute drove past about 9.30, the female driver looked at me and kept going. I followed on my bike until she stopped outside of town. I rode up beside the ute and stopped, she looked out the window and said “Are you the bloke?”.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At first Mary wanted to just go into an empty field nearby, I didn’t like that idea so we went to her farmhouse. We went inside to the bedroom, got undressed and lay down. I felt strange, unsure of myself and of her. I was much too inhibited to easily get into casual sex, and here was a woman willing to have sex with random people she’d never met before. She was only my second partner, not paid for.
We started kissing then I started feeling Mary’s tits, sucking her nipples and then rubbing her pussy, while Mary played with my dick. She got moist but I didn’t get turned on at all, so Mary got the Baby Oil and said, “This usually works with you blokes.” Mary rubbed my cock with the oil, it worked enough for penetration and we fucked quite well I think, but not for a long time. I held Mary in my arms and we lay on our sides kissing and talking till my cock got hard again. Then I moved over Mary, she spread her legs wide, welcomed me with her arms and my cock went into her pussy easily. We fucked very slow at first, gradually speeding up as the feeling grew. This time lasted much longer, eventually we were going as hard and fast as we could (I was young and fit) and I blew my cum hard up inside her pussy. I stayed on top still inside her, holding my weight on my elbows and knees. Mary kept her arms and legs wrapped around me, holding tight for a while. then we relaxed and I lay down beside her again.
Mary had to get on with the rest of her day, I asked could I come back the next morning, she said yes.
The next day I arrived at Mary’s house about 10am, she welcomed me with a smile. I drew her into my arms and kissed her gently. Mary smiled again and took me into the bedroom. The phone rang, Mary answered and told the caller they couldn’t visit because her Mother was there. Mary hung up and told me that was one of her fuck buddies, and that he knew her Mother wasn’t there.
This time we undressed each other kissing in between taking off each item of clothing. I told Mary to lay face down for a back rub. I gently stroked my hands and face all over her back, bum and legs, then drew her face sideways for a kiss. Mary turned over, and we kissed deeply. I ran one hand over her breasts and belly then down to her wet pussy. Mary opened her legs and drew me between them, I entered her with one slow stroke and paused with my pubis pressed hard against hers.
We fucked passionately this time, and for much longer.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went on my way feeling very pleased with myself. Mary and I never met again, I still think of her sometimes, wondering how she is. Fred came to a Family wedding in New South Wales, a few months later. He told me that Mary had asked about me, would I ever come back again?
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My cousin Fred, a few friends. They were ok with it, Fred said he wasn’t going to visit her again.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was a new experience.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? In those days, casual sex was a strange idea to me. I used to be a Christian.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? 40 years was a long time ago, but I remember it well. At the time it was a man’s notch on his belt. Over time it has helped me to realise that casual sex is fine. As someone wrote ‘Sex is pleasure, and pleasure is good for you’. The encounter was a good experience for me.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is fine, relationships are fine. People seem to find their own way, and they should be allowed to with out all the restrictive rules that Society wants to apply.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? The project seems a great idea to me.
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