by M.J. Lund
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Mid West
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Hairstylist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kink
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 70
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
All Of Your Senses Needed!
How long ago did this hookup happen? Today
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a white male and is 43 years old. He has tattoos, a military background, a beard, and a half-shaved head with long hair on top. He is very friendly and open-minded; he is also divorced and has one child. We met on a dating site and talked for a while. It became more sexual when I saw that he was excited about being a great dad. It was a turn on. He made me feel comfortable to express myself and not to be ashamed of any part of it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, we talked about meeting for a while but continue to chat and flirt. We never called each other or heard each other’s voice until we met. I was at the park texting him while I watched the ducks and enjoyed the day. He asked if I wanted to stop by and bring him a coffee at his home. I really wanted to see him in person.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First, I gave him the coffee, and he invited me in. I asked if I could sit, and we both sat next to each other on a love seat with a center part between our seats. We were watching TV and talking about what he was doing in his house to remodel. I ended up brushing my hand next to his, and we lightly touched each others’ arm, but soon we both stopped. He then took me on a tour, and I was impressed with his bed. It was a king size, and I was tired so I laid down on it. It was so comfortable, and he came behind me and spooned me. We cuddled and just laid there relaxing. He then started to caress my body, and I really wanted to face him and feel his kiss. I softly started, and he gladly returned the passion of the moment. I grabbed and pulled at his hair, and we both were pressing against each other. He started to climb between my legs, and we were kissing and grinding with our clothes on until he pulled my breasts out of my tank top and bra. I helped him and enjoyed the sensual kissing, licking, and grabbing he was doing. Then, when he couldn’t take it any longer, I swung my legs to his shoulders and lifted my behind as he pulled my leggings off. I was shocked that he had them off so fast, but I was excited to see him undress. I was pleased to accept him inside me, and when we were kissing, he just felt so good to me and I was feeling his eyes deeply look into mine the deeper he goes. He is very good. He then said that he is about to cum, and I welcome it. I have my tubes tied, so I can’t have kids, and I ask him to please cum inside me. After, I thank him for it. He said he was happy to, and he thanked me for letting him. After we got dressed, we went to smoke a cigarette outside. His carpenter stopped by just then so we didn’t talk much. But he was making sure I was okay and promised that when we would meet again that it would be better. I told him that I was not dissatisfied and that I enjoyed it, but I had an appointment so I had to go. He texted me right away and made sure to tell me again that the next time we make sure we have more time and that I see a better him performance.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t feel bad. I like him and had an attraction to his style. I text him regularly, and we both text back and forth. He invited me to a BBQ next week; I’m not expecting anything more than to just be in the moment, enjoying each other, and seeing what happens.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. I’m not ready to talk about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I met a great guy and felt pleasure and had the feeling of being adults who shared a deep attraction and mutual desires.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t get a chance to really hang out much. We had a time limit.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I’m fine so far.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s mainly let me feel comfortable with expressing my thoughts that I would have never talked about or acted upon because I was thinking it was not normal. It was hard to get over and allow myself to own my desires, but now, I’m more interested in being able to help others with some misconception of sex, and I value marriage and being one’s true self. But, use of all of one’s sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing to help the intensity of your whole body and get in tune to better understand each other.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s okay. I’m sure it’s a bunch of perverted people reading stories and taking them for their next book to make cash from my life, but I’m sure it just doesn’t matter.
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