What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? MD
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
An Illicit Encounter
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her on a married dating site that I’d used successfully before. The conversation flowed easily from the start with an unusual level of openness and trust. We agreed to be bold and meet because we got along so well while our respective partners were away.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When we met in the pub parking lot I immediately knew I fancied her, she was stylishly dressed in fake leather tight trousers that showed off her fabulous legs, high heels, a tight top that revealed perky breasts, and a gorgeous face. I’d known she’d be fit, as she was a yoga instructor, but she was also incredibly sexy. I knew I wanted her and kissed in the lot to say hello (there had been a pre-agreement that if we fancied each other we’d kiss before we went into the pub).
The conversation flowed over dinner and we moved afterward into the main pub bar and sat by the fire. By this time our legs were entwined under the table and there was plenty of touching and compliments, she clearly wanted me as well. We left the pub and had a long snog in the parking lot before parting and agreeing to meet for sex ASAP.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Two days later she came to my house around 8 pm while my family was still away. I’d lit candles and a fire as in our chat we’d discussed the joys of making love on a rug in front of a fire. She arrived with a huge smile and a bottle of champagne, by the time we got to the kitchen to get glasses we were all over each other, kissing and touching.
Once back in the main sitting room the clothes started to come off and soon, we were both on the sofa in our underwear. She was caressing my cock through my underwear and I was pushing into her panties and fingering her dripping pussy, two married people happily lost in a new lover.
I decided to focus on her clit to make her cum, she laid back and kissed me as I focussed my fingers on rubbing faster until she gushed onto my hand. She told me afterward how rare it was for her to cum with a new lover the first time.
We then went on to make love on the rug in front of the fire and then with her bent over the arm of the sofa until finally, I came hard in her missionary as we lay on the sofa. We were kissing and fumbling around for a bit until she realized she needed to get home and left. A beautiful evening and extremely illicit on my part as I’d never allowed an extramarital lover into my home before.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We met the following week and had sex in my car before she went away for 8 weeks. She is now back and we’ve met twice with another date planned for next week at a London hotel.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. I’ve never told anyone I’m unfaithful
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having such good sex with a woman I like
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? None
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has just made me regret again the sexless nature of my marriage
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish I’d learned earlier what women want from sex. I would’ve had far better sex when I was younger
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its great, I love reading about what the rest of the world is up to.
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