Awkward First Time



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Hungary
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Akward First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a short girl, around 160 cm (I am almost 2 meters so it looked quite comical) long red hair, slightly thick but had awesome curves (waist, breasts, bottom) and beautiful blue eyes, pale skin. We have known each other for almost 3 years, and mainly we were keeping contact through facebook and telephone but 2-3 times a year we mate at lake Balaton (a popular tourist destination). We were really close friends back then.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, i visited the capital of Hungary for the first time ever and she offered me to stay at her place – but according to her (and according to me as well), having sex was not in the picture right until we were laying next to each other.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First of all, this is how i lost my virginity. Before having sex, we visited some friends and we got drunk AND high in 3 hours time. Then we went home boozed and illuminated and since it was summer and the temperature was around 35 degrees neither of us had much clothing on. I was supposed to sleep on her couch in her room but it was uncomfortable so she told me to go and lay down next to her (single bed by the way). We looked at each other for a few seconds and then… we started kissing, touching each other, gently biting, etc. She reached orgasm by me using my fingers and pleasuring her clitoris. Then she used her mouth, then we had penetration in the missionary position. I didn’t reach orgasm AT ALL. (Later on, I figured out that I can’t have sex if I am boozed and I was worrying too much about if I’m doing things right and sort of forgot to enjoy myself.) After smoking some cigarettes and laying in bed, she started crying that she can not please a guy who just lost his virginity but I comforted her that it is perfectly fine and I enjoyed myself.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Next morning I broke the ice by giving her a kiss on the cheeks. Later she told me that she couldn’t decide if this was a one-time sex or just being fuck-buddies or we want to be serious. I told her that it was definitely not a one-timer but I didn’t plan ahead since it was completely random. we continued to be like this for another month, then distance separated us. We agreed that it was a fun experience for both of us, especially for me since I didn’t lose my virginity to a random person that I don’t know. We still talk sometimes and still meet during summer (but we don’t have sex or anything). We still consider each other friends.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. He just looked at me and said: Cheers mate 🙂

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was someone I knew before quite well, interesting first experience. I came to know that reaching orgasm for a guy is not just about “sticking it in”.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I didn’t come, and that I hurt my partner a bit.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, a little bit. It made clearer for me that GOOD sex is either like a burst of fire OR really deeply emotional. At least this is my experience.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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