Birthday On The Beach

by JR

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? From USA, currently living in Korea
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Military
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Birthday On The Beach

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a young woman with freckles and dark red hair(I initially thought it was brown). I met at a hostel in Australia, we were in a small beach town that was a launching point for Fraser Island tours and there was little to do. I asked her if she wanted to hit the bar on the corner for a couple drinks and she said yes.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We got to the bar down the road from our hostel and ordered a couple drinks. It was definitely a local bar, we were the only tourists in there and they had off-track betting. We talked for a while about our lives, me from America, her from Zimbabwe, and what experiences we’ve had. I was getting good vibes from her and my fingertips gently migrated to her thigh People started singing karaoke and I entertained her with my ability to discern characteristics about them (I had my back to the singers) without looking- particularly about one man and his lack of teeth!

She then said she wanted to guess my age. “Okay,” I replied. 22? No. Over or under? Over. 24? “Yesterday was my 31st birthday.”

This surprised her a lot! I look a lot younger than I am. When she told me to guess her age I said 21, she was 19(the legal drinking age is 18 in Australia in case you were wondering). She then kissed me. Then we went for a walk.

We kicked off our shoes and walked barefoot in the sand. It was already night out and there were no people, no houses, no lights but the moon and stars. We made it about twenty yards before we started making out. Then we ripped each others’ clothes off.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I kissed her mouth, her neck, her small breasts with one pierced nipple. She laid on her back in the sand, legs open. Normally I do not perform oral with women I’ve only recently met (I’ve always considered a bit more intimate and I respect when a woman does not wish to perform oral) but in my head- in that moment “Fuck it! This is the last teenage pussy I’m ever going to get!” And went down on her. I had never enjoyed oral so much- giving or receiving.

After a while, she grabs my hair and pulls me up. I maneuver my cock to her lips trying to use my hands as little as possible because they had become covered in sand. She was tight and wet. I hadn’t brought condoms, when I had asked her for drinks I was only expecting conversation, but even if I had the sand would have made them impossible to put on. We had barely started when she told me that she almost never orgasms. I said it was okay, I sometimes have trouble having an orgasm too, though I knew I wouldn’t have trouble that night.

I drove into her again and again, our limbs digging into the sand in rhythmic strokes. I suggested we switch out of missionary and she got on top and rode me. That was when we started to have a bit of trouble with the sand. She would ride a bit too high once in a while and slip off. We’d then have to grab a shirt to brush our hands off to put it back in and continue. After a few of the awkward incidents, we returned to missionary.

I rose high over her, looking down at the view of my cock sliding into her young body. Her eyes big and her mouth shaped in a small ‘o’ as she took me inside. I sank down on top of her, kissing her neck, making the proverbial beast with two backs. She whispered in my ear “Fuck me til you cum!” “Inside?” “Yes, fuck me til you cum!”

I broke many of my personal sexual rules that night.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I rinsed off in the easy surf. Only remembering after I got in that they are called saltwater crocodiles for a reason. Fortunately, they either were not there or did not find me particularly appetizing. We put our clothes back on. I looked down on the where we had fornicated (I don’t know why I like using that word, but I prefer it over fucked), how we had kicked out the sand, digging a hole in a most unusual manner, and said “People are to see that tomorrow and be like, ‘Did a sea-turtle lay its eggs there?!'” She laughed pretty hard at that.

The next day I went on a tour of Fraser Island for several days. When I got back she was still at the hostel, the following day I would be leaving on the greyhound and she would be starting her Fraser Island tour. We hung out, got some pizza, a couple beers at that same bar, wandered around town making out and looking for a place to hook up again. We agreed not the beach again, because fuck sand, and eventually found a long pier for tourists to take pictures and had sex there.

We’re still friends on Facebook and occasionally chat. I find her to be a very bright and interesting woman and hope our paths cross again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Making new friends, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ll be honest, I bragged to a couple of friends of mine over text. It was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got to feel like a teenager. I’ll explain more below.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Sand. Fuck sand!

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I did not get to have the ‘normal’ high school experience. I had severe social anxiety, suffered from bullying, and I never even kissed a woman until I was in my twenties. This wasn’t just my “Last teenage pussy” it was also my first. I’ve been with a good number of women at this point in my life but they were all adults who had already experienced the high school fooling around and making out, and I never could explain it to them how hard it was missing out on that. For those two evenings, I spent with her I got to taste that bit of life I had missed out on. The goofiness, the irresponsibility, the… feeling like a teenager!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Some of you may think that I’m a creep because I was almost twelve years older than her. I can see where you are coming from, but let me tell you where I’m coming from. My parents are 17 years apart in age. Most of the women I’ve hooked up with have been older than me. I respect women enough that when the are legal adults to treat them as such. She had a beer, legally, and she wasn’t drunk. She was happy to see me again.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? All of the sex I have had has been casual. I would prefer to have deep, meaningful sex, but I have trouble connecting with people that way. I spent too many of my earlier years refusing casual sex because I wanted the relationship, but after having to wait so long I realized that maybe casual sex is a way to meaningful sex if the circumstances are right.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think that it can be useful. Even just telling my story has helped me in a lot of ways because I was able to say things here that I have not been able to tell my closest friends. I have been able to tell them about the sex but not what it really meant to me

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