What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Explorer
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is the most beautiful woman I had seen that day. I decided to grab a drink after work and went solo. She came and sat 2 seats away from me and we started talking. She had the most glorious smile. Her name was Elana, (not real name). She was about 5’9 and just dripping in beauty. I had a date coming and she was running late but we had the most fun conversation and we exchanged contact information. She left after.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met up a few days later to reconnect and have a drink. We ended up spending the night talking and laughing about world issues. Then we started kissing at the bar and she took my hand under the bar table and guided it between her legs where I felt her warm wetness. I said darling let’s get out of here and I took her by the hand and we left.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I called an Uber to a hotel and as soon as we entered, we both got naked. We kissed each other forever and explored each other in the most intimate and sexy way. She smelled like lavender and her skin was so soft. She was so delicious I probably tasted every inch of her body. We had sex for about 3 hours and in every possible position. There was so much tension built because neither one of us wanted to cum until the other was ready. However, we both came when I had her in missionary with her legs closed. My cock was so hard and dripping with pre-cum. She was ready and so was I so we went for it and we gave each other the best orgasm ever. Omg. We were on cloud 9 and just couldn’t believe how much pleasure we just had. We are still in shock about how it all went down.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We are still meeting every now and again and relive the experience over and over again. It was beautiful.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I think I evolved as a person because what an amazing experience it was. I still can’t believe it happened with such a beauty who was so kind and smart. She needed an adventure and so did I and it was just random that we met.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes… I need more.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Everyone should seek this type of liberation. Life is short so live.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? How society makes judgments about people. Sex is a way toself-discoveryy and happiness. Lack of this makes me sad.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great.
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