What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Hillsboro
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 81
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Checked On Co-worker
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a co-worker who worked in the pharmacy. Older gentleman, thick, about 6 feet tall, grey haired, and bearded.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was at his house. I was wearing summer clothes which was probably showing too much. It was not planned, it just happened. He kept complimenting me on how hot I looked in my top and shorts.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He kept talking about my body and we were flirting a bit and at some point he started to try and tickle me. We were wrestling around and I could feel his hard-on against me. I teased him I felt his hard dick and he said he was going to use it on me and I dared him. He came over and started kissing me and I kissed him back. I felt his hard dick and he started taking off my clothes. He licked one my breasts and then I gave him head. He laid me down on the floor and we had sex until he finished.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a little awkward but he asked me over to talk about it. He asked me if he could have oral and then we did until he finished. We had sex several times for about a month until my husband started asking me questions and then I stopped.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few friends and eventually my husband. He was upset, but we agreed that mistakes would happen at times and that is ok.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Looking back it was just about sex for him.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement of being with someone new.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He liked me to swallow and that is not my favorite thing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, no.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He was about 30 years older than me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s all about consent.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is interesting
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