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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 11 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a Korean that was adopted by a white family. She was attractive with multiple tattoos. I met her at my friend’s birthday bar tour. We talked briefly and exchanged numbers and set up a date.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I called her, and she invited me to another get together of her friends at a bar that was 40 minutes away. She said I could sleep over if I wanted to. We met at that bar, then I went back to her dorm…..
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We lie in her bed and watched “Oceans Eleven.” I start to make out with her, and it gets more and more intense. I gradually take her clothes off, and she takes off mine. We are completely naked and she is on top of me. Things are hot and heavy, and I can feel the wetness from her groin on my groin. I go down on her, tasting her juices, then she goes down on me. We are on top of each other and I ask her for a condom. She says she doesn’t want to have sex, but she remains on top of me making out (and completely naked). We make out, and I rub my cock on her clit. I can tell it pleases her because she stops kissing me to focus on the pleasure of my cock rubbing her clit. After a few minutes she says “let’s do it. I have a condom in the othe room if you want it.” I tell her it’s ok, and plunge into her warm wetness unsheathed. Due to the tension from before, I last only a minute or two then blast her cervix with my man batter. We finish then sleep for the night. I wake up in the morning, start kissing her, and she spread her legs and blast her cervix again. I get hard to this day over this incident.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? This happened right before Spring Break, so I called her while on it. I arranged for another date. I didn’t know my expectations at the time, but we went out for another 3 weeks or so. We had great sex, but there was no future and it ended.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? all my friends. they thought it was great.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was raw, unprotected sex with no consequences.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It ended because she went back to her old boyfriend. Even though we weren’t together, it did hurt the old ego.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not that I can think of.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is too much of a taboo post marriage. I’m married currently, but look back fondly on my freer days, and long for them. I’d like to see it be more free, and not looked down upon.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s awesome to see other people with a similar perspective.
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