What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Yuma, AZ
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Merchandising
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Promiscuous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 14 months ago.
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 5’11 and 250 pounds. He was Mexican and 25 years old with tan brown skin and well hung. He was inexperienced though. I met him on POF. I did not intend to hook up with him but he seemed nice and I was lonely.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I usually get up in the mornings to pray and do crossfit. He texted me at 4 am saying “Good morning”. I loved it. I thought it was sweet. I was not feeling good and told him I was not going to crossfit. He said “Come Over, I’ll give you a workout”. I thought to myself. He’s 25, he probably will work me out. So I went over after shaving and showering.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I wore no panties or bra under my tube dress. I walked up to his place. It was nice and he had a nice lowrider in the garage. I was worried he was married. I asked him if he was and he said no. He said his sister decorated his place. So we start kissing. He seemed super excited and said I looked familiar. We have still never figured out why. So we started grabbing onto each other. He stared at me. I slipped out of my dress. He says to me “sit on my face”. I was like, ok, we just met so sure. We end up in the 69 position. He came in my mouth within a minute. I did not finish but I had to go to work. So I left. He texted me when I got home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I fell in love with him. I spent Christmas and NYE with his family. But we broke up and we don’t talk anymore. He was just passing the time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend. She said he was too young for me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? We ended up getting into a relationship. He did not want to be with me and was too polite to end it so he slowly did things to remove himself from the relationship. However, he was there for me when my mom passed away, when my son got sick, when my daughter had twins, and when I was in 2 car accidents. I am thankful that he was there. But I wish he had not been there at all because it is really hard to be thankful and completely erase him from my life.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The hook up itself. He was cute. He was everything I wanted in a man.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Again the hook up itself, I didn’t get to cum.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No I’ll probably hook up with other men eventually.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If I had not fallen in love I would not remember him.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It is taboo for woman to be so promiscuous. I don’t know if it will ever change. There is thing I did not mention. I did go through a burnout in life from too many partners. I felt an overwhelming urge to cry. I guess because I was always hopeful to fall in love. And supposedly I am promiscuous because of low self-esteem. I love myself and my life. I just get horny and lonely because I don’t have a man.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting.
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