What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Pretoria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Events and catering manager
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventurous,open minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None


How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My younger cousin. She is firm, with good curves. I’ve never hooked up sexually with her before. We just give handouts as cousin’s. I always saw her as a sister. We refer to each other as brother and sister.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Two days back she sent me a text saying that she had a sexual dream about me. I brushed it off and said it’s just a dream, we have no control over them . Since then she was texting me frequently just to talk.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She came to visit me yesterday evening. We watched some movie on my laptop and just talked. She was wearing sexy clothes though. A push up bra, her was hair well done and she had on a short dress. It started raining and we stopped the movie and just started talking. Somehow we ended up playing around and one thing led to another and we kissed. She asked me to stop saying we are brother and sister. I stopped, but then she came and kissed me. I grabbed her, put her on the bed and and we kissed and touch, pushed up her dress, and pulled her panties to the side. I was wearing shorts, so I easily pulled out my dick and rubbed it on her pussy. She opened wide and I went in. Kissing her the entire time. I came faster than usual. As I was in her she asked, “What should I call you, brother or what?” And I came hard.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt bad, filled with regret. It’s my cousin . Not sure I want it to happen again. But she says she wants to do it and continue and she has no regrets. She is 25 and I’m 35

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Noone

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? She is my blood relative

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The regret

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes.. questioning the sex boundaries

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Don’t sleep with your relative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Play safe

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fun

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