Drinking a White Russian

by Jefferson

Gender: Male
Age: 40s
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Artist
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Oriented towards the woman’s pleasure
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Drinking a White Russian

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1.5 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? One week stand.

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at a convention in LA. She was nearly half my age… and thought I was somehow more charming then the assembled that were of her generation..

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was in a bar of a hotel. There was no plan… nor was I ‘trolling’ for a date or any such thing. After a fairly large amount of premium vodka was consumed, the bar closed. I offered to walk her back to her hotel… which proved to be more then a mile away. I got her back to her hotel… we chatted for a bit… I kissed her goodnight (don’t remember that part)… and somehow managed to walk back to my car. Woke up the next morning with the parking attendant banging on my car window demanding another ten dollars for parking all night. I was late to work… and went straight from this parking lot to work.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I called her up.. and we went out to dinner. She was traveling with a friend… and I suggested that she stay with me for the next week. She agreed. We made love the next night after checking her out of the hotel. She was extremely beautiful… and it was a delight to explore her body. She had several orgasms… I had none.. which is not unusual… as it takes me a very long time to have an orgasm… and I never allow myself to even consider it, until the woman is thoroughly satisfied. The rest of the week was intimate…but not very sexual… mostly me pleasing her. That was an interesting aspect to this ‘hook-up’…

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I did. Particularly when she took my condom off. She did not sleep with many people in her life… though I still wasn’t completely comfortable not using a condom…

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She was a beautiful 26-year-old Russian woman… Very accomplished for her age. Super smart. Super perceptive. Very sexy. Very witty and adventurous. I’m nearly twice as old as she is. She picked me… and one can be most assured… this sort of thing is not something that I aspire to, as doing so would be somewhat obscene… At the same time… it is hard for me to turn down such a fantastic opportunity.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol was definitely involved. Not so much that my physical abilities would be impaired….

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was so very happy to meet her. Our week long adventure was truly magnificent. I am still in contact with her. I appreciate her spirit very much. She is now in another more permanent relationship… She has quit her successful job and moved to another country to live life and enjoy herself.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple of people who are very close to me. An ex-girlfriend who met her…and thought she was lovely… a best friend from childhood. And they were very happy for me…as she was such a nice and lovely person.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Very consensual… very sensual.  For both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.  Never.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was communing with a person who in so many ways is from another universe… and finding common ground and a personal intimacy that was only about the two of us.

The worst thing… is that it ended too soon.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I am in a long term relationship with a woman who lives out of town. This is my primary relationship… though we only get together about once a month. She is close to my age… and our sex/intimacy and time together is always intense and complete. I would never tell her about this or any other once-in-a-blue-moon hook up with her…as that information would only hurt her.  She knows that I am attracted to other women… and she knows that I don’t go out looking for it.
By the same token… if she got together with someone else… I would not want to know about it. This kind of information does not have anything to do with the present moment…. and only hurts me. I would get over it…but it requires a lot of processing that is not fun… nor something that I wish to deal with.

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