What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Medical student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First Bumble Date
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Literally the first guy who came up on my Bumble.
Brown hair, glasses, fairly tall, medium build, handsome.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We messaged on Thursday night and arranged to meet Friday evening after he finished work.
We went to a bar and had a couple of drinks, took a tube back to his place and he was touchy feely with me.
He bought me dinner and I ate sitting on his lap. I didn’t know if we would hook up but it seemed like it might happen.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I sat on his lap facing him and we started making out. It felt very intense because he was the first guy I’d been with in a while and since breaking up with a long term boyfriend. He was very giving and knew to go for my boobs. Then he gave me oral. We 69’d and I couldn’t wait to have sex with him. When we did, he was really great but his dick was huge and it hurt a little. It was a kind of pain-pleasure thing that made me want to keep going. He realized after we’d done a few positions it was hurting me a bit and said we should stop, and he finished himself off while we made out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was super pleased with the encounter and I’ve seen him again twice for sex which has been better each time. I don’t think we have much to talk about and I still don’t feel I know him at all, but the sexual chemistry is there.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My flatmates, they totally supported me.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It helped with my self-confidence and also was just a great time with someone new
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The painful part, but we’ve had sex since that didn’t hurt.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It opened my eyes to having more casual sex from dating apps
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great, but I do think guys need to be more willing to use a condom in casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I’ve only discovered it today but I am so interested in it.
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