First Time

by Ross D

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Always horny
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 17
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was the summer of 1973. I was home from college for the summer and playing in a rock band that performed nightly at a nightclub in town. “E” was a cute Asian girl that worked in a gift shop next to the night club. I used to drop in to buy a soda, or some gum or candy, before heading down to the nightclub for our gig. “E” was cute, had a nice body, and was always friendly to me, so I looked forward to seeing her whenever I went there. We were both from the same city, but she had attended a different high school from me, and was currently attending a different college out of town, so I didn’t know her before we met.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I really like “E” and wanted to ask her out on a date, but I couldn’t do it because our band played every night from 8:00-12:00 midnight. So instead, I invited her to come to the club after she got off work. The first time she came to the club, she came with some friends. But later, she would come alone and I would sit with her during breaks. We became close friends. She would often stay till the club closed and then I would walk her back to her car. Eventually, we started holding hands when walking to the car, though we never kissed or did anything intimate, and we never talked about being boyfriend/girlfriend or anything like that. One night, after walking her to her car, I opened the door for her and decided to try and kiss her. To my surprised, she responded with a deep French kiss that got me instantly hard. I was a virgin so I really didn’t know what to do, but fortunately she did. She told me to get in her car and we’d go somewhere private. We drove around for a while and finally found a secluded park where she parked behind a few trees so no one could see us.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got into the back seat of her car and started kissing and making out. She let me feel her breasts and touch and finger her very wet pussy. At the same time, she kept rubbing my hard cock through my blue jeans and very shortly, she made me cum in my pants! I was so embarrassed but she reassured me that it was okay and to just take off my wet pants. Being 19 and horny, it didn’t take me long to get hard again. She asked me if I had a condom but I didn’t have one so she said to make sure that I let her know before I came. She sat on my cock and took me inside her. She started riding me, slowly at first, and then faster. Because I had cum the first time, I was able to last a little longer — though not long enough as told her to get off before she was able to reach an orgasm herself. Being inexperienced, I didn’t know how to satisfy her so we kissed while she squeezed my softening cock, and then we got dressed and she drove me back to the nightclub and we went home.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got together two more times after that before the summer ended and we both left for school. She taught me how to finger her clit, and she also taught me how to eat her pussy. Even though she was only 2 years older than me, she was obviously much more experienced and was willing to teach me a few things. We eventually lost touch with each other and I heard from a friend that she got married after college and moved out of state. When I think back to those days, I think fondly of “E” and wish I could go back in time for one night and be with her knowing what I know now about how to please and satisfy a woman.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one at the time.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex for the first time. Being with someone more experienced who could show me how to do things.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being able to fully satisfy her.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s made me more concerned about pleasing my partner.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I still think fondly of “E” and hope she has had a great life.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I see no harm to it as long as it is mutually consensual and no one gets hurt in the process.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I enjoy reading the stories.

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