First Time Cheating

by Sara

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Anonymous
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time Cheating

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Jason was a patient at the hospital where I work. He was 6’, 21 years old, 170 lbs, black, and toned like a runner. He was working construction for the summer before returning to college in the fall. He had been cut up in an on-site accident with cuts to his arms, legs, and chest. The cuts weren’t life-threatening, but he had developed an infection that required IV and topical antibiotics.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As a nurse of 20 years, I had pretty much seen it all. I was to clean and replace the dressings on his cuts and give him a sponge bath. I have easily given 100’s of sponge baths over the years and have had multiple men get erections, which is quite common. I’ve seen all shapes, sizes, and colors of penises, so this wasn’t something new. I’m in decent shape for 42 and I’m a wife and mother to 2 teenage girls. There was no planning for what transpired.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I came into the room, closed the door partway, and pulled the curtains closed even though he was the only patient in the room. I introduced myself and told him what I’d be doing. I proceeded to help him take off the gown and began to sponge his upper body. I hadn’t noticed his groin area yet, but once I went to wash his lower abdomen I actually stopped for a few seconds to stare at his huge penis. It looked at least 7-8 inches long and he obviously shaved as he had no pubic hair. I snapped out of my trance and continued to wash his body, lifting his arms and then his legs. I then had to wash his groin next. Normally, I just quickly sponge the patient as to not make them too uncomfortable, but I spent extra time there and even grabbed the head to wash the underside and his testicles. He had remained soft until I grabbed the head and then he rapidly became erect.

He became quite embarrassed and apologized for his state to which I told him not to worry as I’d seen it all at my age. I continued washing and got him to lean forward so I could wash his back. I couldn’t stop thinking about his size and when I had him lean back I went and washed his legs again so I could stare some more. It had to be obvious by now that I was stealing extra looks at his huge erection and then I grabbed it fully with my left hand and began washing every inch of his shaft. What I did next completely crossed the line as a nurse and a wife, but I wasn’t thinking about any of that anymore. I slowly began to stroke him with my hand while sponging his balls with the other. I have never cheated in my entire life and was literally giving a stranger a handjob at work merely cause I was so excited by his size. When he moaned in pleasure, I knew I should be stopping, but the fire inside me began to take over and I now had built up a steady pace on his penis. I continued staring and stroking for at least 2 minutes when Jason spoke “Nurse! I’m gonna make a mess if you don’t stop!” At that point, I was determined to finish what I had started and furiously stroked him until he began shooting his semen into the air. I finally released his penis and began wiping the semen off his body. Once I was done, Jason thanked me for the bath and I said: “You’re welcome, sorry if I got carried away?” To which he replied, “Not at all, it was nice”. I put on some gloves and began to change his bandages on his arms and chest. When I began to change the dressings on his legs I noticed he was still erect as I had yet to put his gown back on. I finally finished, packed my supplies and left. I continued my rounds in half a daze.

The next day at work, I headed to Jason’s room last and, once again, had to bathe him and do a dressings change. He was erect immediately and I continued to wash his body, leaving his groin for last. I decided to give him another handjob as I hadn’t stopped thinking about the last one. This time, however, he hadn’t ejaculated and I had been stroking for at least 10 minutes. I asked if I should stop but he said, “no, keep going,” so I continued in hopes he would come soon. After a while, I asked if it would happen soon, but he said he usually takes a while and that yesterday was un normally fast due to his lack of release since the accident. I walked back to the door to close it tight and went back to stroking him. When another minute went by, I decided to suck him. I tried in vain to get much more than a few inches in my mouth and then began to lick every inch of his long shaft. When he put his hands in my hair I really began to get into it and began moaning myself. When Jason quietly moaned and said, “Get on it!” I wasn’t sure what he meant. Did he want me on the bed or did he want me to ride him? When I stopped and looked up at him he again said “Hop on it!” I knew he wanted to have sex. Although I love my husband, I knew I had to experience his penis fully. I quickly climbed on the bed, lowered my scrubs, and tried to ease his tip inside my vagina. It took some time, but I had a good amount inside me and I began to ride him as best as I could on the hospital bed. It wasn’t long and Jason said he was ready to come. When he said that I rode as fast as I could and when I felt his warmth releasing inside me, I too began to orgasm. After I finished, I lifted off him and pulled up my pants and got off the bed. There was a pool of semen all over his testicles and the bed. I wiped him clean and headed into the washroom to wipe my vagina as well. He thanked me again for the release. I never had sex with him again but washed him thoroughly a few more times until he was released 4 days later.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I never saw him again. I think about him often although I know feel horrible for cheating on my husband. The size of his penis was extremely satisfying. I hope to never see him again as I’m not sure what I would do.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? The experience was amazing, but cheating was wrong.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The size of his penis.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think less of myself.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Cheating is wrong but I couldn’t help wanting to try his size.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great place for me to talk about what I did.

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