First Time In College



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time In College

How long ago did this hookup happen? almost a year

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short Fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Juliet was at 5’3. She had long, light brown hair, pale skin, beautiful blue eyes, and weighed 120lb. She was cute and drove me wild. She was thin but didn’t work out, so not toned, but was perfect for me. We were both 17 when we met. We had just graduated from high school and we’re going to the same university. After you get accepted to my university, they send an invitation to all new students to join the social media app. Most people use it to find roommates for the dorms. That is how I meet Juliet in July.

She lived about 3 hours from me. I literally just sent her, “hey how are you?” and she responded, “good you?” And from then on for about a month we would ask each other questions back and forth. When we moved into college, she lived in the dorms. I had some money issues so I had to get an apartment. The day I got to campus, there was a picnic so we met there for the first time. I was dying of thirst and drank so much water, so I barely got to talk to her. After that, she said this maybe wasn’t a good idea but would give me another chance at the dance later that night. We had a great time just talking. I walked her home.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After our first real date, we hung out at my apartment. The first Saturday night before school started, we watched The Giver. During the kissing scene, I kissed her. It was my first kiss, but not hers. She literally almost gasped for air, it was so bad. But we laughed it off and continued making out. After that, we would text when we could, and I would see her a bit on campus. The next Wednesday, we hung out at my apartment. We watched her favorite show, then started making out. This time I took off my shirt to try to get her to do the same. She did but was a bit shy. She loved me kissing her neck, and I put my hand under her bra and panties to feel her ass. It got late, so I walked her home.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The actual hook up happened the next Saturday. I walked her to my place. I put on some music and we started to dance. When we both got tired, we went to my room to “watch a movie.” We talked a bit and made out. Then, my shirt and shorts came off. She was wearing a dress and just took it off. She took her bra off next. I was kissing her mouth and neck. She said “you can kiss my nipples if you want,” so I did. Kissing them was amazing.

I started to kiss her body and rubbed my hands on her ass. I thought we were not going to go any further since we didn’t have a condom, but then she said she had one from the school orientation in her purse. I took off my boxers, went to put it on, and came back to continue. She looked concerned, so I stopped and asked if this was too far. She said, “I don’t want to be a mistake, I don’t want you to regret me.” We were both virgins, but I was religious and wanted to wait. I was swept up with emotion, and I told her “I would never regret her and that she wouldn’t be a mistake.” At this, she smiled and said: “fuck it.” Then, she ripped her panties off (she was a bit shy about her bush but I didn’t care). She laid down in missionary, and I went into her slowly and stopped. She did make a face saying that it hurt. She directed me on what to do. Then I went all the way in. I started to fuck her slow before going faster. She made another face and said, ”you have to do more than just fuck me.” So I slowed down and started kissing her mouth and neck again. We decided to change to doggie, but the condom came off, so we decided to call it a night and just cuddle.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day she was sore and was on her period so a bit annoyed. We saw each other a few more times after that. A month later, I did something bad to her and she stopped talking to me. We have lost all contact.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my friends and my cousin

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Cause she hates me now and in a few years she’ll be a stranger to me. My first time was supposed to be with my future wife, not some stranger.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? emotional intimacy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The awkwardness of not knowing what to do.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I truly believe that if it were not for this hook up, I would have moved on easier with the guilt of messing up.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? People think that it’s okay and maybe you’ll feel great and think. But I truly believe that if you compare sex and love, love is preferable. I just wish people understood that hookups can often be meaningless and fill you with pain.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I don’t understand their goal.

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