First Time at a Swinger Club

by Whitestag

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Perth
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First Time at a Swinger Club

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She had a fairly light complexion, dark brown/black hair, a few piercings, some tattoos and was a little on the chubby side.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at a swinger’s club my girlfriend took us to. I was fairly close-minded and shy at the time but my girlfriend was a complete nympho – she loved sex and got it frequently from wherever it came. She convinced me to go along to a local Swinger Club she had been to where being naked was compulsory.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I mostly sat and watched at first as my girlfriend went down on another girl whilst being fucked in turns by two guys. Near to me, this other girl was on all fours atop one guy who was hammering away at her pussy, with another guy behind her filling her ass and one on the side playing with her and whom she was playing with. She caught my eye and beckoned me over, bidding me to sit in front of her. I did and she started playing with my cock, then once I was really hard she started deep throating me, playing with me as she did so, grabbing, fondling and stroking me all over. The guy beneath her blew his load (condoms were also compulsory) as did the guy behind her and she sidled up to me. She turned around and leaned back into a kneeling position, put my whole length inside her then proceeded to bounce up and down on me whilst I fondled and fingered her asshole until I could no longer hold it, and I blew my load while many others watched.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Initially, I felt embarrassed – I hadn’t intended to do anything like that despite where I was, I mainly went to keep my girlfriend happy. Over the years that followed, however, I lost many inhibitions and that experience was one I came to remember fondly and think about when I pleasured myself. I have since regretted I did not take more advantage of the situation at the time.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Didn’t want to disappoint my partner

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have only discussed it with my then girlfriend and now wife (not the same person)

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The anonymity

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? For a shy person, it well beyond my comfort zone – a very alien environment

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Very much so. I look back on it as a sexual awakening and a mind-opener

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Only that it was one of a number of visits to that particular establishment

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It opened me up to new experiences and possibilities. I became a more confident person, sure about what I wanted and I am so glad I did because I believe it made me sure about what I eventually wanted in a life partner. I think everyone should be able to explore their sexuality without fear of judgment – I understand it can be a complex interaction but I wish people would be more open and accepting.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A great site! Interesting, and a great way to accumulate data for research purposes, also a hot read for those looking for a littfantasizinging!

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