I Guess My Girlfriend Was Just Getting In the Way


What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

I Guess My Girlfriend Was Just Getting In The Way

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had known each other for a while – met through our group of friends. That group of friends included a girl that I had nothing in common with, but was practically married to at that time. The friend and I are both heavily tattooed, and she is a fiery red head – I’ve always had a thing for red heads. Our group of friends all had similar, very niched interests (obscure authors, films, music etc.) so we were all pretty close and on the same page about pretty much everything.

Also, we were all basically functioning alcoholics at the time, so we were always running into each other at bars or concerts.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The following summer, I became single. It was a messy fucking breakup. It was not mutual, and not wanted on my part at all. This girl became such a bud, and told me the truth and everything else I needed to hear at that time. We became very flirty with each other. When we were out with everyone else, we’d send texts back and forth, despite the fact that we were sitting across the table from from one another. I still remember some of those messages…

Me: “Don’t judge me”
Her: “I’ll judge you until you fuck me”

Me: “Beach?”
Her: “Fuck the beach, we should just bang?”

Yeah, pretty obvious what would eventually happen.

As the summer wore on, there were many drunk public make outs. Many failed attempts to go home with each other. I was also fucking several other girls that summer – I’m kind of a horrible person, but I always knew it was just a matter of time until we would sleep together.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The last weekend of the summer, we went out for drinks (naturally). She ordered round after round, shot after shot until the bartender called last call. She covered the whole tab and we lingered for a while, talking shit about the city we lived in, and other people we knew. We were eventually kicked out, so we walked around downtown for a bit. We stumbled by the well manicured lawn beside the museum. The non-stop automatic sprinklers were on full blast at this time of the night. We looked each other in the eye, and without thinking, we both stripped down to our underwear and started jumping through said sprinklers like hyper children (It was hot as hell and humid as fuck that summer) Our lips and bodies eventually met for one of the most passionate kisses I’ve ever had in my life. I was getting so hard, and there was no hiding it. She jumped on me, put her legs around my waist, bit my lip and gave me the most intense ’fuck me’ eyes I’ve ever seen. We dressed immediately and moved things to her apartment nearby.

I piggy backed her for the two blocks to her building. We made out in the elevator, and stumbled loudly into her apartment, waking up her roommate (another good friend of ours) in the process. We got to her bedroom and she put some music on her laptop…

Her: “I mean, I love sex…but I think I love music more…”

I guess I couldn’t argue.

With pure lust, we tore each other’s soaking wet clothes off. Her pussy was trimmed, but not completely shaved. I loved it. She had small tits and she was very self-conscious about them. She didn’t want me to touch them, which was kind of frustrating. I went down on her and fingered her for a while then tried to enter her, though she wasn’t quite wet enough.

Her: “I’m kinda tight.”

That was so fucking hot. I enthusiastically went down on her again, fingering her more this time.

After I was convinced she was wet enough, I finally entered her. While we fucked, she was softly singing some of the lyrics to the songs that were playing in the background, while telling me how good I felt.

Me: “God, I’ve wanted to fuck you for so long”

Her: “I guess {ex-girlfriends name} was just getting in the way”

This, combined with how tight she was, was absolutely amazing.

I kept fucking her, and held on as long as I could. I had no idea if she was on the pill or not, so I told her she was going to make me cum, and I pulled out and shot a lot of cum all over her body and bed. What can I say, it had been a few days.

Her: “Okay, I’m going to need a shower…”

She got up and jumped in the shower. I followed because frankly, I just wanted to see her naked more. We showered together, made out a bit more, then passed out.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The morning after, she joked about how ‘We just destroyed this friendship.’

All I could think about was how her mattress was so uncomfortable and that I was naked and had no idea where my clothes were. I really wanted to have sex with her again, but she had to go to work. I borrowed some socks and walked her to work, then went home and jerked off. Thinking about her the whole time.

We hooked up a few more times after that, one of which was a threesome…there will probably be another story submitted for that one.

Beyond that, there was always scheduling problems between work and school (I was trying to get my life together at that point) so we never got serious. She randomly left town for a few weeks, and I met someone else in the interim. When she came back, I’m pretty sure she was pissed at me, but she never told me directly. From there on out, things were always awkward between us.

Shortly after our falling out, I found out she got pregnant and had a baby. Sometimes I look back on things, and wish it was mine.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends, none of them mutal, but they all knew each other.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting drinks together, then fucking to music you both love.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We probably ruined a great friendship/potential relationship by being idiots.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is awesome, and definitely human nature. Slut shaming needs to end.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s fucking awesome.

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