I Think It’s Just Sex

by Anna

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Current location: Indonesia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Occupation: Accountant
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

I Think It’s Just Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? A fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew this guy from tinder.  His profile picture just average looking man. He told me that he is looking for partner to practice tantra. And if i agree he will visit me to get to know me. As I get bored with my long term boyfriend. I decided to say yes and I was curious with tantric sex. I gave him my address and next day he came to my place. I was surprised. Standing at my door.  Darkly handsome man. In his late 40’s. He was so sexy. and I wonder why he used tinder and fake profile picture just to get a hook up. While actually if he just walks around he could get easy hook up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The moment he entered my house. He said he is there just to get to know me and will not do anything that make me uncomfortable so we started talk about our self. He doesn’t try to touch me when I undress naked in front of him and saying I need to have a shower.  After shower I came back wet and still naked. He still stay not moving from the couch even my nakedness is an obvious sign. Angry to be ignored. I waltz and kiss him. Finally he moved.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed and touch..breathing in sync.. just stand naked. Looking at each other eyes. I am surprised how could  a stranger give such intimate embrace. That even I never feel it with my bf. Every thing went in slow motion.  After finished teasing and lick me. He pound me so hard. And gone the gentle lover. The sex was raw. Rough and animalistic.  But great.. I gave him a bite mark. By the end he asked me if I could be his girl. And hoping for another meeting.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had 4 orgasm in whole 5 hours meeting.  And he came twice.  He was so worn out. And it’s been so long I haven’t feel that. I am in relationships for 2 years. Where if I am Lucky I will have sex once a Month.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Actually I am so careless. Even before he saw me. He told me if I am gonna have sex with him. It should be bareback. He used no condoms. And I was freak out.  That he intentionally cum inside me. I demand explanation and he just said if you pregnant you marry me. Or if you don’t want give the baby to me. We discuss sti history. And he decided we are low risk. As I didn’t fuck around.  And he knows his own things.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My dying relationship.  I love my boyfriend.  And he loves me . We are happy togather. But I don’t see any future with him so I consciously seeking for replacement.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not at all.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We feel so close at that time. And we feel great.  He told me that he never met any girl match him sexually. And spiritually that he wanted to pursue something for long term.  I felt like he is a good liar.  Because no men I met would talk like that. And I wonder what is his motivation.  I told him if he wanted sex he can come anytime to see me. As it’s great to have sex with him. No promises no strings attached.  And don’t need tell me bullshit.  Just fun. Then he was mad and said if just that I could offer.  He won’t see me again because for him sex is easy to find but not connection. I am confused.  Casual sex is just for fun right.  Yet he demanded exclusivity honesty and trust to continue this fling.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my boss. He said I am stupid to betray my very good loving boyfriend. Just to have fling with first handsome men that knock my door. But he understand and support my decision to leave my relationship and warn me to not pursue anything with the men I hook up with because he seems odd. And not genuine.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was.  I need this to walk out from my comfort relationship and this fling make me realise I am not really in love with my bf. And I was just afraid to be alone.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No I don’t.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best is this stranger not only make me sexually satisfied.  And in this 3 months he draw out something that I think I never capable to do and change my life perspective. And not be ashamed with my sexuality.
The worst I think it’s just a fling. His partnership only for bed room stuff and we not involved with each other life.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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