What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? More than 60
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? one
Just Drove Him Home!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a few years older than me. Very good looking. We worked as together as Bartenders.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had only been married a few months and was working as a bartender. I was very young and my husband and I had only dated a couple of months before we married. My husband went away for a week and I guess I was feeling resentful. L and I started flirting at work. We would brush up against each other behind the bar and make suggestive comments. He was only working for the summer and was staying in a tent in his friend’s backyard. I offered him a ride home one night and that was when it became interesting.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
He was really sweet and complimented my character and looks. It made me feel confident. The first night I drove him home it was a kiss that maybe lasted too long but nothing more. I think after I dropped him I was wishing it went further. The next night I drove him home again and when we kissed goodnight I made it last and he responded with more passion and a feel of my breast over my shirt. I had to leave but I knew the next time I drove him home it would go further.
A few nights later we worked together again and the flirting became sexier. At one point he whispered in my ear how he would love to bend me over the bar and take me right there. I drove him home and we didn’t hold back with the kiss. He held my face in his hands (which I liked) and when he moved to unbutton my shirt I didn’t stop him. He pushed up my bra and put his mouth on my tits. He played with my nipples and kissed me without rushing so when he moved a hand to my leg and under my skirt I was very wet from the foreplay, the anticipation, doing this in a car in a driveway and the fact I was cheating. All of it made me extremely horny. As he moved his hand over my thigh, I reached over and rubbed his cock through his jeans to give him the OK to keep going. When his fingers touched my panties I knew he could feel how wet I was. I opened my legs for him and he moved under my panties over my slit. He played with my clit as I kept rubbing his cock. When he slipped his finger inside me I was close to cum. He wanted me to take his cock out but I didn’t. When he started to unbuckle his jeans I straightened up and said I had to go. He told me later he came in his pants. I kept driving him home and he would finger fuck me and play with my clit and sometimes make me cum. He would take his cock out and I would jerk him off. I took his cock in my mouth once or twice but never sucked him off. Sometimes I would take my panties off before I left the bar. I knew it was wrong but it was so exciting and hot and it didn’t interfere with sex at home. In fact, it made it better. This went on for two or three nights a week for the summer. He would keep begging me to go in the tent so he could fuck me. Before he left to go back out West I did fuck him in his tent twice but it was very disappointing. He ate me and I sucked his cock. The fucking was nowhere near as satisfying as playing with each other in the car. One night when I came home after dropping him off my husband was coming out of the bathroom. He was normally asleep when I came back home. He grabbed my ass and kissed me. I was horny as it was probably a night I didn’t reach orgasm. I wanted him to fuck me but was worried he would notice how wet I already was. He pulled my skirt up and shoved his hand in my panties. When he felt my very wet pussy, he said: “Oh, who has got you so wet?” I didn’t answer and we continued in the bedroom. L for out West left and I never saw him again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt somewhat guilty but even though my husband and I had great sex I think this made it better. After L went back from West he wrote me once asking me to go see him. My husband found the letter and I was horrified but he told me he had suspected earlier and when he found my pussy so wet at the night I came home, he already knew for sure. He told me it turned him on and he would jerk off at night wondering if I was getting fucked. Over the years (31) we have been very open and have had various encounters mostly always together. We don’t go looking for them but once or twice a year we seem to find something that keeps it interesting.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness. Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My husband. It opened up our sex lives to more suggestions. He was the only person I told.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement of playing in the car and being a “bad girl.”
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? When we did finally fuck it was a letdown. Being in the car and being fingered and jerking him off were more satisfying.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think I said it all. The reason I remember the details of most of my encounters with casual sex is that my husband and I always get off on describing them to each other.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Thirty plus years and my husband and I still get off on flirting and being “bad” once in awhile. It has improved our sex life and relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a great idea. Casual sex can be very positive in many ways as long as no one gets hurt from that.
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