Losing It to An Ex-Manwhore

by Victoria Ross

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Losing It to An Ex-Manwhore

How long ago did this hookup happen? little over a month

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on tinder. He was super attractive in a classic bad-boy sort of way but lived outside my city, so once the semester was over, I went home and was in his city. We didn’t know each other that well, but we had one date before then and were both super into each other. He’d gone through a hoe-phase in the past year and had multiple sexual partners. He told me stories about wild things he’d done, but it didn’t really bother me that he had way more experience than me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We hadn’t seen each other in two weeks, so once we were alone at his house, we started making out. My chest was still tender and covered in hickeys he’d given me before, and we joked about it. I had brought condoms and lube, but when things really started heating up, I still asked him if he had condoms as a way to sort of feel out what he was thinking. But, I was super horny and wanted him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had been making out beforehand, and I had sucked his dick before. I was getting super horny from all the foreplay and being able to feel his dick through his pants. I didn’t tell him I was a virgin, but I told him I wanted him and that he should fuck me slowly at first. I took off my panties as he was rolling a condom on, and I grabbed the lube and started rubbing it into myself. He came over, and I slowly rubbed some onto his dick as well while looking into his eyes. He positioned himself between my legs, and I guided his dick inside me while still rubbing myself with my other hand. His first thrust made me gasp, and I think he could tell that it was hurting me a little bit. So, he went slowly, whispering that it was almost all the way in.
Once he was all the way inside of me, it was still sore, but it started to feel really good. I was so turned on by how sexy he was and how he was enjoying my body. He picked up the pace and leaned back, taking my legs and sticking them in the air. He pushed into me hard, and my legs spasmed. He fucked me like that for awhile until he pulled out and ripped off the condom to cum on my chest.
He got up and put another condom on, came back, and continued to fuck me. I almost couldn’t get enough of him, and I told him how deep he was inside me. After he came a second time, we finally stopped, and he told me that my pussy was the tightest he’d ever been in. We fucked a few more times over the next few hours.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterward, we continued to date for a little while and had sex more times, but his libido, after that year of sexual adventure, was much lower than mine, and it was kind of a conflict. I wanted a lot of sex, and he wasn’t really interested in sex anymore, so we stopped dating. I don’t regret it at all, and I’m glad I lost my virginity to somebody who really liked me and was kind and knew what he was doing.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends and best friend right afterwards, and they all congratulated me and wanted to know about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’m super lucky to have lost my virginity to somebody who listened to me and my body, was so sweet, and was considerate of how I was feeling.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t end up being sexually compatible for much longer, despite liking each other.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It kind of woke me up sexually, and now, I’m not terrified of having sex. I know my partners enjoy my pussy and how vocal I am, and I’m much more willing to seek out sexual partners. It also showed me that the concept of virginity is different to everybody, and just because it wasn’t a big deal to me, doesn’t mean it won’t mean more to others and that’s fine. This also helped me realize that I have a high sex drive and that I need a partner who does as well.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think that consenting adults should never be shamed for enjoying sex together, whether they’re dating or casually hooking up. Sex is awesome, and I don’t think it should be considered “the most sacred thing you can do with anybody.” Because sometimes it’s just fun! If you’re being safe and communicating with your partners, casual sex is nothing to be ashamed of. I think sex makes me feel good personally, and I get turned on knowing my partner feels good.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this project is awesome because it really shows people of all ages and creeds across the world talking about sex in a non-shaming environment.

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