Love And Lust

by TJ

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Assistant Professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Very high sex drive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Love And Lust

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My Partner, TA, was a new joinee in the Organization and as per my current role, i was responsible for the Orientation process. TA is a very bubbly, fun loving girl with a whole lot of positivity around her. Right from Day 1 we felt the spark, even though either of us were too shy to take the first step forward.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I connected with TA over Social Media and we got along like a house on fire. Even though i am married and she is into a serious commited relationship, we realised we had many things in common, like for example being in a long distance relationship.
It was just a matter of time that we really fell for each other madly and wanted to love each other even though we loved our respective partners too.
Eventually we decided to do our own lil weekend getaway.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once we entered our hotel room, we went wild. We literally took off each others clothes and experienced each other the best way we could. We went down on each other and ended up in the 69 position with her being on top of me. She gave me the best blowjob with her saliva dripping down my thick cock. I too ravished and licked her pussy and drank all her juices.

After that we kept going on for several hours and tried all different positions. And she squirted so so much! It was throughly enjoyable. At night we even went to the balcony and had sex outside without a care in the world. It was our time and we were in love and lusted for each other.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We felt great after we connected with each other to such a great extent. We wish to continue loving each other like this as long as we can.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That we loved each other and we celebrated it. We cherish each others presence in our life and feel very happy about it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we have our own respective partners and that ultimately it gets counted as cheating even though we dont see it like that at all.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was always of the opinion that it is possible to love more than 1 person at the same time without compromising the love we have for each of them

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We now look forward to every single moment that we get to spend with each other.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great as long as you know what you are upto and have your priorities correct.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It is a great initiative for people to understand what goes on in other people’s life and how it impacts them

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!