What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Switzerland
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, handsome, hairy, deep blue magic eyes, sexy and young man (6 years younger than me which makes it the first time I’m older than the guy; he’s also the smartest guy I’ve known). We met 5 years ago during vacation and have had at that time a one stand thing. We kept irregular contact over Facebook during years with some nostalgic thoughts about that afternoon in Germany. For no particular reasons only a few days after I separated from a long relationship, I contacted him and asked for a meeting that was half work related. We found a date and he flew me to his place. We spent the weekend in bed and it was amazing. I think I felt in love brutally. We quit each other without knowing if we’d see each other again. But it happened! 2 weeks later we met again.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was already very nervous on the flight and got wet at once when I saw him at the lobby. We quickly kissed and undressed and I gave him a blowjob. He looked at me while drinking a whiskey. That was only the start. We dressed up decided to go out dinner and on the way back he suggested we take a love pill (never done before). I was reluctant at first because scared but decided to take a quarter of it and observe what happens. It kicked in slowly and I soon took the rest of it as we arrived back at the hotel.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started to get high and we first simply danced, staring at each other for a long time with our headsets on as we could not play loud music. We finally got closer and he started to take the lead of our moves. He caressed my breast with wild intensity and I almost came only with that. It was amazing – I did not know that my breast was so sensitive when one focuses only on it! He got more and more brutal and slapped my ass. He then pushed me again the mirror and took me from behind very slowly while we were still staring at each other. The intercourse lasted for ever and we both came very hard several times. He asked me to put my fingers in him. Every gesture we had on each other was like a natural obvious and right thing. I’ve never been so at my ease with my body or had such complete trust with someone else. I let him bite me and tie up my hair because he knew exactly with how much strength he should use for the perfect pain/pleasure balance. We ended up exhausted, our bodies covered with fluids and so much intensity. I’m sure the drug cannot be the reason for all this.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up in his arms and felt like I was walking on a cloud. He woke up hard and we started again..then again in afternoon, and then two more times before going back to airport! My entire body was literally smelling like his. I left with my legs shaking and my heart bleeding. No proper news since then. I’m still wondering if there could be maybe one day something more than this unforgettable souvenirs….
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To cheer myself up, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A close friend. She was shocked about the drug and the fact that we did not protect ourselves but felt somehow the envy of experiencing such intense sex.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of being totally desired and the only thing on earth that counted at the moment.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It might never happen again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes I’m getting very choosy and my expectations are so high now it’s difficult.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m not sure. I think I wanted to an easy thing to handle and showed very little of what it really meant to me most of the time.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s an amazing idea. It made me feel good to read all the stories escpecially the one written by women. It made me feel less alone with my stories and took some guilt away thanks for that
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