Lying, Cheating Whore

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by Mary Jane

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? Whitewashed Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Server
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Exploratory
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2 or 3

Lying, Cheating, Whore

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Patrick is charming and handsome. A little bit of a dark side. Very good with words and reeks of sexual energy. Medium build with a delicious cock.

Wet met overseas at a dance party. We were both expats, but happened to know some of the same people from back home. I was engaged at the time so nothing ever happened. There was a strong build-up of sexual tension between us, but no one acted out of respect for our mates. I knew he had a thing for Asians, so I was also slightly turned off by that anyway. He eventually moved away and we rarely spoke after that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We ran into each other when I was visiting home. Well, more like we ran into each other because I called him to meet up. My fiance was all the way across the country so I didn’t have to worry about coming in on time.

I invited him to a rave with my friend, but I didn’t get there until 2am. He was already rolling by the time I walked in. It was the first time we had seen each other in over a year, but the raging fire between us was still there. We didn’t touch each other all night, but every time I looked into his eyes, I could feel him daring me to make a move. Sometimes I would pull up close to him to caress his chest over his T-shirt, but I wouldn’t let our lips touch or hands linger for too long.

Eventually my friend left the club and him and I were alone. After the music ended we walked around town for hours before we ended up back at his place. We both are involved with other partners so we weren’t sure where it was all going to go.

He gave me some clothes and we crawled under the comforter together.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Still rolling and feeling chatty, i admitted to having a fantasy about him. I told him about it and he told me one back involving me. We couldn’t keep ourselves from tasting each others lips. Then he started tell me about how his first time was in a woman’s ass and how his ex was into that too. I laughed and told him that I didn’t give up my ass very easily (as in NEVER).

We found ourselves kissing deeply and intensely until his hands found their way into the pjamma pants I was wearing. He expertly worked his craftmaking fingers along my clit and along the smoothness of my shaved lips. His touch was so perfectly executed and my body responded greedily. Within minutes I was begging him to stick it in my ass. I’d never wanted it so badly and it had never felt so good before.

Our bodies were so in tune with eachothers. Our kisses alternated between passionate engulfing and soft and sweet. He was a total gentleman. We spent the entire day just cuddling and fucking in his soft and comfortable bed. The whole day felt magical and I didn’t want to leave the next day. I felt like we were the true definition of lovers. We talked openly about our fantasies and both got off on the thought of making them come true. We lay in bed caressing each others skin or nipples or genitals, while talking about sex we’d had with other people. I ended up staying for another night before saying goodbye forever.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I started to feel guilty later during the next day. I had to lie to more than one person to cover up my misbehavement. I know that I need to end it with Patrick, but I can’t. We’ve been chatting a lot over the last few days and I just feel myself falling hard for someone that doesn’t even live in my city. Not to mention the damn fiance at home that I’m not sure I want to marry. I haven’t been having amazing sex with my partner for some time now (a couple of years) and have become completely non-sexual at home (manual or with a partner!). I felt like Patrick made me feel really sexy and aroused again. I was hoping that this hookup would give me a boost in my current relationship, but it seems to have the opposite effect.

I don’t know if I will end up with Patrick, but I do know that I’m definitely not ready to marry my fiance.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? NO ONE will ever know about this.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fulfilling a fantasy and finding a person that is really in tune with me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Disrespecting my fiance. I am an asshole.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me wish that I wasn’t going to get stuck in a forever marriage next year. Patrick and I feel the same way about open marriages that my current partner does not. I once tried discussing and open marriage with my fiance but he was firmly against it. I think that casual sex could be the important glue that holds a marriage together, but after being so intimate with someone else, I feel like casual sex can be more damaging to a relationship than I thought it would be.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I really got off on seeing my engagement ring rubbing his cock when I was giving him a blowjob.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? There is a time and a place for casual sex, but I think the most important thing is that both parties respect each other and stay safe. I am a big fan of having lovers instead of long-term relationships, but I’ll always end up with a long term partner for security. You just can’t get that from casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love this site and everything I read on it. I always used to think I was really fucked up, but it turns out I’m just like everyone else.

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