Met in Person for the First Time at Hers



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? PhD student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? None
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Met in person for the first time at hers

How long ago did this hookup happen? <24hrs ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a blonde, quite thin, 30yr old woman. We matched on Tinder and chatted just a bit on there. We had arranged to meet for a drink on the Tuesday. It was probably going to be at a bar somewhere. I would have had to drive about 40mins to get there. She had to cancel, but said maybe the coming Sunday or next Tues. I gave her my number so she could contact me on that. Yesterday (Wednesday), I felt particuraly horny and didn’t envisage any chance of having sex with anyone that day. I ended up masturbating twice. Soon after the second time, I got a text from her asking how my evening was. One thing led to another, and she invited me to go over to hers. I wouldn’t be getting there until after 9pm. There was expectations for both sex and staying over. I was surpised that she was prepared to do that: trusting a man she had never met in person before. I guess it was also risky for me, but I wasn’t worried about safety. I did worry about whether she would find me as attractive in person. I do have a few pounds around my stomach and slight man-boobs. My pictures may not let that on too much, but hey, I’ve had quite a few attractive girls not care. I guess it was more on my mind for this girl as she was quite thin (from what I could tell from her photos). My other worry was being able to stay hard as I had already ejaculated twice that day, and I have a longer ‘recharge’ than most (i reckon); then again, a new person should be exciting enough to get me fully aroused. We chatted for quite a while at hers and had some drinks. I tried to find the moment to kiss her on the couch, but couldn’t find it. I was slightly worried she was not up for it. Trying to read the signs with a new person is difficult sometimes. But she was resting her legs over mine and receptive to me having my arm around her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When it got late, we decide to go upstairs. We brushed our teeth and everything. Got into bed. Took some, but not all our clothes off. Then moved in to kiss pretty much at the same time.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed for a while, then started taking off more clothes. I spent much time stimulating her upper body. I performed a combination of fingering and oral on her for a while. She was clearly enjoying it, but I am not sure if she orgasmed. She then performed some oral stimulation on me. We then had sex in a few different positions. I got out a durex vibrator for her to stimulate her clitoris in this positions where it would be hard for me to. Due to my situation (having masturbated twice that day) and the heat, as well as tiredness, I was not able to ejaculate. (I also had a condom on, of course). So it finished with a handjob.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? All parts of the sex were enjoyable and it was good to make a friend. We had a lot of great conversation before and after the sex.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not being as aroused, hard, etc. due to masturbating twice earlier that day.
Also, the summer heat

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I would like to see casual sex being seen as an important part of life for most people

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic. I enjoying reading the other stories and hope others like reading mine.

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