My First Foreigner



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Orange County California
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Business Lawyer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Curious
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

My First Foreigner

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2012

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My sexual partners have usually been Chinese boys because I am from China. I mostly met them at school. I use to only like Chinese boy but when I move to America for school I began to like white American men.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My English is not that good but hopefully you like my story. Anyways, I normally always like white men, but one day I was in my school library studying for exam late night. I decided to go outside to make a phone call to China, I spoke with my family because I missed them. After my phone call I went ball but when I tried to go back inside the library I noticed the door was locked. I didn’t know what to do. I then saw a tall boy walking near by and I asked him for help. He was very handsome and I couldn’t stop staring at him. I told him that I needed help to get in. He then just pushed a button on the wall and the door opened. I have never studied late at the library but after 8pm the doors lock and you have to press a button. He made fun of me a little bit but it was ok with me because he was very handsome. We went separate ways but the entire night I was thinking of him. He had clean short hair like US Army soldier and beard. He was not white so I spend a lot of time trying to figure what he was. He was too light to be black and too brown to be white. I really wanted to know, so for a week I decided to go back the same place at the same time to hopefully see him again. No luck the first week so I decided to give up. Two weeks later I saw him in parking lot. I was so happy and he looked so handsome leaning on his blue mustang. I decided to talk to him and I asked him what his ethnicity was. He said he was a Latino. He had a tattoo on his arm that said “Mexican Blood, American Heart”. He then asked me about me and I told him that I was From China studying business here. I didn’t want to talk about me so I kept asking him questions. He was a year older than me and he use to be in the US ARMY which explains he’s well fit body. He was 6’1 and had very attractive brown skin. We exchanged numbers and a week later were in a date. We had food and wine. When it was time to go home I know I wanted have sex with him I just didn’t know how to tell him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When he took me home he gave me a kiss in the cheek and a hug as he was saying bye, but I didn’t let go and I told him to go inside with me. During the hook up I noticed that he was kinda shy so I knew I had to do the work. I took him to my room and I stated kissing him. He’s fat lips felt so nice kissing my little lips. He was still being shy until I grabbed his dick, he looked at me and he said “ok this is what you want” and got aggressive. He threw me to the bed and took of my cloths then he took his off. I got up before he did anything and began to suck his dick. It was a good 6 1/2 inches but what I liked the most was how thick it was. After a few minutes he picked me up and turned me around where he began to do me doggy style. He would turn me and toss me and he would call me his chinita. He bahaved very aggressive which was what I liked the most. I am 5’8 and thin but he was able to handle me like if I was a 110 pound 5’2 Girl. We had sex for an hour, in the end he said he couldn’t hold it anymore so I told him to cum on my stomach but he said no, because he wanted to cum on my face. Instead I told him to do it in my mouth so I can swallow it. He then passed out and spend the night with me.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning he woke up and left. I felt weird because I only knew him for a week. I didn’t text him and he didn’t text me. About a week later he text me and asked if I wanted to go watch a movie with him, I immediately said yes. We dated for a few months but it had to end because I finished school and I had to go back to China. I saw him a month ago, which is why I am sharing this story. I am now a business layer living in America and I am single. I saw him “Alex” recently as a police officer in Los Angeles. He still looks very handsome but I don’t know how to approach him. I still feel feelings for him today. I plan talking to him soon I just hope that he is still single. Which is why I am scared because I don’t want to know if he has family now.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my friends who were all exchange students from China, Japan, Korea, and India. The girls were curious to know what it was to sleep with a foreigner. The boys were rude about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The taboo of being from different cultures. I’m Chinese and he was Mexican American.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Makes me curious about if I can have a future with him and what my family would think.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think is a good place to share good memories.

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