My First Time

by Sarah C

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? office work
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? none
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

my first time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Knew him a while. Never went there. He is 6 feet tall, works out, short dark hair, I’m blonde. Blue eyes. Knows what he wants

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Friends date. Meeting others , one thing lead to another and I really had to have him

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal, it was awesome! I felt like I was floating on air. It was amazing. A little painful to begin with, then so good. He was caring, and took it slowly. Penetration took me by surprise, he was bigger than expected. I relaxed and he took me. Once I was comfortable, he began to move inside me. It was hard to control the feelings deep inside. He came in me, whispering in my ear. Truly memorable. I can still feel his weight on me, and his touch on my breasts. I miss him, but men are men, he didn’t come back.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good and glad I chose him as my first partner. I thought, like every other girl, that he may come back. I miss him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel better about myself

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Mother. She was supportive

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Wanted more

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex was great

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not coming back

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think more before doing

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Yes, sex is not just for men, I really did like the surrender and being taken.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Less stigma towards girls

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Not sure

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