It’s Not My Fault You Can’t Smell Anything

by Ben.

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Trust-fund liquidator
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: I am unaffiliated. I’m pretty sure everyone I know is unaffiliated.
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I pursue woman only despite my stronger sexual attraction to men.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50 or so? More?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

It’s Not My Fault You Can’t Smell Anything

How long ago did this hookup happen? two years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was blonde, and petite, and an artist, and just the perfect, brilliant, adorable New York slut.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We spent a ton of time together and wanted each other constantly and intensely – eventually, it emerged that on an afternoon when I visited her garage just to calm myself down, she went into her room and got herself off. I somehow missed her attraction, and she thought I was happily partnered with the mother of my kid. Which I was not. Happy, I mean.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first night I had her for dinner, both of our kids went to play and that was just the night. We knew. We made out in the foyer, before she’d removed her coat. Then we drank a lot, fast, and had drunk, inaccurate, uncommitted sex. We’d soon be fucking a lot, often well, but that first night was magical, except I barely remember.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was anxious that day. I realized we were in love, and would make great lovers and partners. It was a terrible time in my “marriage” but we’d just had a child. I wasn’t leaving. Eventually I left that city. We haven’t spoken in months.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Meth

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It began or fired a great love affair.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We were doomed not to be together.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I want and pursue more of it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think we should be at liberty to fuck whom we like.

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