An Old Flame Rekindled



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? <5

An Old Flame Rekindled

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a student at a university near mine. 6’0, dark blonde hair, lean with long muscles. He looks very youthful, like fresh out of high school, but he is actually 22. We had hooked up this past winter, but it ended when he realized I wasn’t interested in anything serious. We had met through Tinder, but he also recognized me from the university gym. Over the summer I had fantasized about the erotic moments I shared with him in the winter and was longing to sleep with him again.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in my apartment. We sat in my living room and talked for three hours. Towards the end of the conversation the topic turned toward sex. After I got up for water we stood by the window. That’s when I asked if I could kiss him.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kissed like I remembered. I told him I had forgotten how soft his lips are. Our sexual chemistry is intense. He pulled me into him so tightly, groping my ass and back. He had a wonderful confidence about him. We started stumbling into the hall, still intertwined. He pushed me against the wall and pulled my shirt down to expose my breasts. After he kissed and caressed them I lead him into the bedroom. There we continued to make-out and undress each other. His body was so tight and youthful. He spent a long time between my legs; not going down on me, but intently looking at my sex while fingering me. To see him do that made me extremely turned on. I love the feeling of being examined by a man. When we were hooking up before, he was a virgin, but now that he had lost his virginity I was eager to have vaginal sex with him. I rode him while he held onto my hips. He came in under 5 minutes, despite the fact that he said it usually takes him 45 minutes to come. We had sex again shortly after. This time he knelt in front of me while I arched my back and held my hips up to his. This time we did a couple of positions. During doggy I felt it was too intense and painful, but I allowed it anyhow. It reminded me of how hard my ex used to pound me. I moaned in pain and pleasure as he came inside of me again. After we took a shower together. We have a bad habit of vigorously kissing in the shower. I marveled at how out body looked together: his broad shoulders towering behind my head, my ass nestled right below his groin. It stuck me how young we looked. After we went back to my bedroom and fell asleep for the night.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning he left in a hurry to see a friend. He gave me a kiss after I asked for one at the door. I texted him that I had a good time but I’ve yet to hear back. I’m afraid that this will be another fruitless encounter. I’m growing tired of casual sex. I want an enduring sexual relationship with someone who really cares for me. He is a wonderful guy but I’m unsure if he is fit to be my boyfriend. I hope that we continue to have dates and have sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke to a male friend about the hookup briefly. He though that this lover may expect a relationship in the future.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I think maybe I’m setting myself up to feel disappointed again by the pointlessness that casual sex is becoming to me.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I am SO turned on by this guy. He knows exactly how to get me soaking wet and stay that way.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish I was more into his personality, then it may have relationship potential. Also, I wish he was more concerned with my pleasure. I want him to ask if it feels good or if I’m near an orgasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has reaffirmed my opinion that I’m growing out of casual sex at this point of my life.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A++, magnificent idea.

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