What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Pennsylvania, US
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her on Tinder. We had some good conversations and seemed to hit it off. She was blonde, above average looks, and probably around 4 years younger. I was attracted to her because I was at a down spot in my life and she had low self-esteem.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I don’t remember when exactly the hookup began and who initiated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had a fair amount of sex, and it was oral and vaginal. Her tits were a fairly good size, so I would knead and suck on them a lot and spray my cum on them. Although one tit was clearly lopsided and larger than the other, which always bothered me. She had been with a lot of guys, which was surprising to me because she was very inexperienced. I think she had just been one of those girls that always had drunk sex to try to feel good about herself, but never had sex that’s worth anything or allows for actual experience to be learned.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She never introduced me to her friends. We were together for a month or so before she left to work on a hippy farm and we lost touch eventually.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends and family. They weren’t very interested.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I may have misread her. She constantly needs to appeal to society for their approval of her self-worth.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She didn’t make me wear a rubber.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The whole situation was just a letdown.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? People should just do what they want, but they shouldn’t be surprised if there are consequences.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Not sure yet.
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