Relief For Affirmation



What’s your gender? Trans woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Pheonix, AZ
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Hairdresser
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Attracted to straight cis men
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Relief For Affirmation

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is my neighbor. He’s been divorced a few months. We would talk a little when we saw each other and he was always sweet, but not my type really.

He’s in his mid-forties, shorter than me by about 2 inches. A little over weight and balding. So, again, not really my type.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Basically, I’ve been single for a while and was feeling a little down about myself, and he was there one day in the hall. We had a long fun talk which led to me inviting him to my apartment. I guess I instigated it but I knew he was attracted to me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At my apartment we had drinks. We end up spooning and watching a movie, but half way through he turns me around and asks me if he could get his dick sucked because he hadn’t gotten any in a while. By this time I was in the mood so I took him to the bathroom and sucked him for a good 15 minutes or so. He finished in my mouth (without warning) but I didn’t make a fuss. Afterwards he seemed a little shook and standoffish, so I thought it good to clean him off with a towel and let him go back to his apartment. I only gave him oral so I don’t know if he is a good lover. His penis was a little small though. But he came a lot, which I like.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good after. It felt good to be lusted after and satisfy a man. I dont expect it to become a relationship but it has happenned a number of times more. Usually in the morning Ill do it for him before he goes to work.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Coworker/friend

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing the level of pleasure I nrought him.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Felt a little cheap at the time.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Its good. Most experiences were good or neutral.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great

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