by Nikki Kitty
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Short Fling on Break
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him at a party about 4 months previous to the first hookup. I could tell he was interested in me. I was dating someone at the time, but had been unhappy for a while. We hung out several times at parties and he was cool to hang out with. He was about 5 years older than me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After I started a “break” with my boyfriend, I moved to my mom’s house for about 3 months. During that time, the guy started coming over to the house to hang out with all of us. We would party and drink a little, then one night about a week after I moved into my mom’s house we were left alone after everyone else went to bed. No real planning was involved, though during the night I had been flirting with him and kissed him several times.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we were alone, we sat on the couch and began kissing. After a while, I got on top of him as he was sitting on the couch and straddled him. We continued to kiss for a while and his hands wandered around my body. A few minutes later I took off my shirt and bra so he could touch and kiss my boobs. He unbuttoned his pants and pulled them down and I stroked his penis in my hand for a minute while he sucked on my boobs. Then I stopped touching him so I could take off my pants and panties…
As we continued to make out, he started to finger me with one hand and the other hand was on my hip. I was pressing back against his hand as he fingered me. This continued for a few minutes and then I noticed that both his hands were on my hips… I opened my eyes and looked down to notice that he had taken his fingers out of my vagina and slid his penis into it instead. I was so caught up in the moment I hadn’t really realized it before that point. I just laughed and continued…
I stayed on top the entire time and we had sex like that for about 10 more minutes. I had an orgasm from the combination of the sex and the sensation of him sucking on my nipples. Right after I got off, that pretty much induced him to orgasm. He came inside me and then I got up and let the cum leak out into my hand so it didn’t make a huge mess on the couch, then went to the bathroom and cleaned up.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good about it. The sex was pretty good. Over the course of the following 2-3 months we had sex about 3 times a week and tried out different positions and everything. He always came inside me, since I am on birth control and I like the feeling of that much better. He would do oral on me, but didn’t like it on himself so I never did it to him. After my boyfriend and I began to work things out, I stopped seeing this guy. As far as the future goes, I told him that there wasn’t anything beyond what had happened. He was hoping for more and something long-term, but I had to tell him it wasn’t possible.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To cheer myself up, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, mom, sister. They all thought it was okay and reacted well.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? That he wanted to make a relationship out of it and didn’t want to accept that it wasn’t going anywhere.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was pretty good.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He wanted to be boyfriend/girlfriend after a while.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s fun when people agree and know what to expect. My boyfriend and I have hooked up with other people in threesomes before and they were good because everyone knew what to expect.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Pretty cool site.
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