Sloppy, but Broke My Dry Spell



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Sloppy, but broke my dry spell

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Great smile. I didn’t know him at all, met online and he seemed a bit desperate. He was almost 5yrs younger than me so I thought I’d go out with him just for fun. He seemed great, nice, good with small talk. We met for a walk and ended up playing mini golf before ending up back in the car together.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Went to say goodnight and he buckled on to me. I wasn’t really into it – so forward so fast. He was looking for his forever and I wasn’t there. I just went with it, nothing to lose for me since I was emotionally unavailable.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal. He was super kind but like the energizer bunny. I often had to tell him to slow down and enjoy the process. He tried, but couldn’t get me off. He didn’t spend the time it takes to warm a woman up. During it I pretty much just wanted it to be over with. We hooked up 3-4more times afterwards – I really wanted to orgasm with him but he got soft a few times, the last time in particular which killed the experience for me. He wanted me to meet his friends, hangout every spare moment he or I had but it was too much for me. I was so I attracted to him by this point. He could tell and started to become extremely desperate, name calling himself in a plot to get me to stay.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the first hook up I wanted another one to see if it would be better. The next day I felt empowered that I had sex and was relatively unemotional about it. Now that it’s over….I’m still satisfied that I had sex since it had been a few years. But ultimately partly wish I hadn’t have had sex with someone so desperate and emotionally unstable. I could have seen potential with him if he was more mature. He loved country music and now it makes me cringe when it comes on the radio.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend. She thought it was great to have some casual sex, enjoy myself for once which I partly agree. Being from a religious family I certainly couldn’t discuss with some of my closest which is a bit disappointing.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? Because he was hurt and ultimately I would be embarrassed if my loved ones knew the caliber of person I was intimate with. For me it was just sex, for them it’s intimacy.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I had sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The guy was a total turn off when his pants were off. Small penis, Harry ass and went soft the last time. I was never pleasured properly.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He got obsessive in the end so I had to totally cut him off. Felt a bit scary – not sure if I’d do it again so fast.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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