Somethings Are Better Left In Fantasy

by Joan

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Therapist
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Unsure / Questioning

Somethings are better left in Fantasy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is my Personal Trainer. He came once to me to the gym and told me how I needed to to things better and that he would give me a taster session. Have been training with him since then. He is obviously in great shape. We had a normal client-relationship trainer, and then started sharing personal stories, then of past lovers and how happy we were currently. I wondered if I would ever do him, some days he seemed more attractive than others to me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We just became more personal in our conversations over time, until one day he started joking with sexual innuendo. Since then we texted mildly naughty things to each other and teased each other a bit during the sessions. We agreed to meet outside the gym one day and we went to his place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was not really sure about getting on with it. Even though my marriage is fairly open I think there was a tacit agreement of not fucking someone that the other person might know. Went on with it because I wanted thrill and adventure. There was a bit of fingering and caressing. Sex was short, uneventful and disappointing.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? As I said somethings are better left in fantasy. I guess I just liked the idea of having someone so physically fit fancying me I am having my next PT session soon, will determine how I feel by then. But I plan to resume a professional relationship only

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? To cheer myself up, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Just this website. Think might be wiser not to tell.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? Would have liked it to last longer, and for there to be much more chemistry. Also his manhood was much smaller than I thought it would be.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Well at least I know I can entice good looking people.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? There are no guarantees of how good or bad an experience will be

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is good that women nowadays are freer to have sex with different partners. I think marriage itself is a ridiculous endeavour.

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